Would it be too cruel to.............. (page 2)

Mum

She sounds like a niece of mine. One of my nieces claims to be a true believer in the JW religion, but has never practiced it. Clearly the reason why is that she wants to make her own choices and live her own life. She has married well and has a career as a registered nurse. She shows no signs of becoming a JW.

Don't worry about what your friend says. Look at what she does. She sounds like a poor prospect to become a JW. Maybe you guys can talk about other things than JW "theology" when you're together. Without too much talking, simply show her that your life has improved since leaving the JW's.

whathappened

Don't go, she is dead weight.

nugget

Will you benefit from going? If the visit will stress you out then don't go. Only you know what you are able to tolerate and only you know the level of risk you would be undertaking by having increased intereaction. If she has family still in, and knows mutual contacts then you risk exposure. You will not be able to be yourself, express your real point of view or totally relax. It was a shame your daughter was not more discreet about your address or at least contacted you first.

I would politely decline the invitation.

Heaven

Take Cantleave with you.

cedars

It just goes to show that disfellowshipping doesn't necessarily equate with (or lead to) awakening. It's odd, because you would think being shunned is the perfect opportunity to do some homework and find out what the "other side" are saying. I guess some people just prefer not knowing the full story. It's easier that way.

Cedars

talesin

We have not been "friends" for almost 10 years but I don't know if it is possible to be friends with some-one so opposed to my views and my new friends who I care way more about than any from the KH as I don't think she even wants to know ttatt.

There ya go! You already know what you want to do. And it's OKAY. You are not obligated to 'try' with this friendship, if you don't want to.

xo

tal

*mirroring, it's a great technique*

Amelia Ashton

Talesin, you have got it absolutely right, I just didn't see it

I feel guilty not wanting to rekindle the friendship and I felt enormous anger when she disrespected anything apostates have experienced or said. It felt like cognitive dissonance in reverse.

I felt sick.

Amelia Ashton

She has just e-mailed me and invited me for lunch.

I have made a decision and it is making me a little bit scared but I am going to do it.

I am going to tell her I am "out" and 100% against the book publishing company posing as a religion and claiming to be god's only channel of communication on earth that I once belonged to. No pussyfooting about and sugar coating it and blaming depression etc.

I will tell her I am atheist and I totally believe in evolution.

If she wants to be my friend then it has to be based on honesty and I am not prepared to let her delude herself into believing I am "taking a break" from it all. This is what she said when I told her I would never step inside a KH again.

She may report me and I will be disfellowshipped. So be it.

I am going to show her a copy of The Independant newspaper article and the Watchtower claiming apostates are mentally diseased and how it was me made the statement to the Police. She already knows I am friends with Cantleave and Nugget and they were disfellowshipped for apostasy and I will tell her they are my friends first and foremost over every-one else along with my other apostate friends. If she still wants to be friends with the "new me" I am happy to have her back in my life.

Wish me luck guys

gorgia2

Good luck Amelia!

gorgia

cantleave

Best of Luck - send my love to her Dad

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