Son is giving first talk, conflicted (page 5)

marriedtoajw

The hall lets out about 9:15, wife is usually home by 9:30. It's 9:52 and no one home yet.... How many congradulations and plans for get togethers are going on now I wonder???

jgnat

Lots and lots and lots of love-bombing. Go to bed.

Billy the Ex-Bethelite

I'll come from left field on this suggestion. I wouldn't bother with wifee, the kids, or the inlaws. I'd go straight to the elders at the KH.

I'd very much be tempted to visit the KH and ask the elders if it's against their religion for JWs to get jobs. Tell them what you've told us about having to work hard for long hours to only be disrespected by your wife and her family.

And tell them that your nonJW family thinks that all JWs are lazy moochers and haters.

If I didn't see some results, and quick, I'd find out the elders' phone numbers and call them. I'd find their addresses and visit them.

marriedtoajw

Billy, everyone, fil, mil, bil, sil, wife and oldest son are all umemployed and gov. assistance. Inlaws are surviving off of odd jobs and low rent by a JW landlord...

marriedtoajw

By the way, me, working at least 50 hrs a week and gone from the house from 9am - 9pm mon-fri and Sats 11am - 4pm, almost every week for yeeeeeaaarrssss.....

Billy the Ex-Bethelite

Oh my. I would most certainly talk to the elders. If your wife hasn't worked since she's gotten baptized and your 22yo son doesn't have enough ambition to get a job, you need to ask them what kind of influence they are having on your family.

And as I mentioned, state very clearly to the elders that nonJWs see what is going on and are unimpressed with the influence that Watchtower has had on your family.

I suspect that your wife has been painting a very different picture for the congregation. No doubt the elders are clueless and are giving her terrible advice. I'd come and speak to the BoE in your behalf, but I can tell that you're in a different time zone.

mP

i would make him really embarrassed in some way, so much so he never wants to return to the KH. Sure its hard but thats better than wasting a lifetime in the JWs.

HarryMac

You're in a crappy position, I feel bad for you.

I can just see you waiting at home and feeling like everybody thinks you're the bad guy.. that totally sucks.

jgnats advice has been awesome on this thread... right up to 'go to bed'. Don't give them any reason to feel persecuted ... they feed off of that.

Also, my real dad that I met later in life would never, ever have gone to the KH. I have to say... I respect that. 'To thineself be true' and all that jazz.

garyneal

Well just remember, in the end money talks and bullshit walks. I would insist that the son at least finds employment or enrollment or enlistment. It will probably make your wife view you badly and make her think you're persecuting your son because he is progressing so well in the TROOF.

jgnat

See, if the family members were pulling their weight by working, they would have less time for the Kingdom Hall. Even though you have not exercised it, you can force the situation so they are all working, especially mom.

How many cars in the household? Don't gas up her vehicle.

Son is giving first talk, conflicted

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