losingit:
By their rules, I am disfellowshipped. Even just typing those last 3 words made me feel ill. I AM NOT DISFELLOWSHIPPED!
If you're not a member of their organisation, their semantics don't apply to you. Just ignore whatever status the Watch Tower Society imagines you might have. If you don't consider yourself 'disfellowshipped', don't use the term.
Probably something along these lines.... I still love God, and that I have not left Him. Am I back to the meetings? As a Witness? No, my heart could not bear being shunned by people I called my dear friends. Entering the KH just hurt me too much. I am still the same person, the same chick from XXXX that wants to do the right thing. If you want to hang out on those terms, that I would be more than happy. I suspect that you will choose not to. Just know that it was the shunning that caused me to leave the organization.
Why?? You shouldn't have to negotiate a 'contract' with someone who's supposed to be your friend. Use natural language. There's no reason to mention your religious beliefs at all. If they insist on prying into your life or labelling you with JW semantics, you're probably better off without them.