Were any divorced over oral sex?

by gumby 37 Replies latest social relationships

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  gumby

  Let me explain:

  In times past, the Society's policy was that a witness mate could divorce their mate who demanded or had them perform oral sex and persisted with their views.

  Later the policy was revised to mean a witness mate could divorce their mate who had oral sex with someone.....OUTSIDE of the marriage.

  Are there ANY here who had this experience with the OLD arrangement, or do you KNOW of any cases in which this happened?

  My reason for asking is, I wonder how many lives were ruined by another WT blunder. This hasn't been discussed anywhere that I have seen since I've been out 7 years ago.

  We will never know statistics on ruined lives by the dubs.

  Anyway....let me know if you know of any.
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  gumby

  well?
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  dungbeetle

  In his book 'crises of conscience', Ray Franz says yes.

  Since that policy is still in effect, I have heard from at least two people that they are experiencing marital problems over this as we speak.

  <sigh>.
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  Imbue

  Gumby,

  Because we learned to keep the marital bed where it belongs between a husband and wife!

  Maybe noone has been DF’d for it here but, I’m sure there are some that were affected by that policy. I don't think anyone goes around talking about it to much...especially if they want to have oral sex again...hehehe

  "Not part of the inner circle class"-Larc
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  SixofNine

  It's kind of personal. We ex-JW's are shy about sexual matters. *blush*
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  bluesapphire

  LOL at SixofNine.

  The oral sex issue was never a problem in our marriage. My hubby was told that he couldn't be a MS if we practiced it.

  Little did they know....

  I think that the ones who divorced over it had to have been married to someone who didn't like it. It's easy for a sister who doesn't like it to tell her husband she's just too "spiritual."

  And then there are the ones who save spiritual for where it belongs and love to do those nasty things only found in brothels in the privacy of their own home, or car, or movie theater
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  orangefatcat

  Oral sex, hummmmmm well I was disfellowshipped for adultrey and yes oral sex, but I didn't give the congregation elders the satisfaction of knowing any details as I refused their "INVITATION" to meet with them to discuss what I had done.
  There is nowhere in the scriptures that it says oral sex is wrong. When God gave his rules and regulations to the Isrealites in the book of Levitcus, the subject is not even mentioned.
  I know JWs personally who feel that there is nothing wrong with oral sex and have they practised it throughout their marriage. How can the WTBS tell a person what they can and cannot do in their personal sexual life? As far as I am concerned its not their place to police peoples sexual escapdes.
  Some people find discussing the subject of oral sex difficult, but I think you will find alot of people do it but won't admitt it. That is just my personal observation though.
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  DIM

  two people who are married can do whatever they want together, as long as both parties agree to it. I would never volunteer any information - its nobody's business. Wives / Husbands who feel "guilty" or something are complete idiots.
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  one

  Shortly after i MARRIED i was assinged to give a talk on the subject. Heck, they did not even asked (as usually was the case) me if i wanted or fell free to do it.

  i happened to know about a couple, the husband was not a jw, and he was furious because she would not do it...
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  William Penwell

  That is the big reason why my marriage broke down was because of the Jdub's archaic marital policies.

  Will

  "I am quite sure now that often, very often, in matters concerning religion and politics a man's reasoning powers are not above the monkey's."
  Mark Twain