Were any divorced over oral sex?

by gumby 37 Replies latest social relationships

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  out4good3

  What about the ones that go off and screw their best freinds wife, both get DF'd and six months to a year later are reinstated?....

  I witnessed this first hand in the first congregation I attended. A ministerial servant ran off with an elders wife. When their DF was announced there was hugs all around for the innocent parties and their kids. Word was that the guilty parties moved away to another state married and were eventually reinstated back into a local congregation.

  The innocent parties? Well they showed up walking together hand in hand at a circuit assembly later that year. Guess there was no reason why they shoudn't have gotten together.

  I think they should've just cut out all the intermediary drama and swapped.

  How do I know this happened? Well, those so called discreet elders couldn't wait to get home and tell their wives, who in turn told a couple of discreet pioneer sisters, who then blabbed to everyone else.
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  gumby

  "Colusion"....that is what it was called when two witness couples, PLANNED on one couple cheating with the other so they could divorce their mate, and switch mates.

  The thought was, this was a very serious sin, and it could be doubtfull that Jehovah would forgive you.

  If the couples remained in the same congregation, it could be an indefinate period of time..IF EVER....that either brother or sister, could have a position (pioneer, servant, elder, etc.)
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  William Penwell

  Gumby said:

  If the couples remained in the same congregation, it could be an indefinate period of time..IF EVER....that either brother or sister, could have a position (pioneer, servant, elder, etc.)

  Don't count on it. I knew one brother that was an elder about 20 years ago. He would give such wonderful talks at the District conventions and was even on the Blood committee. Well he ended up taking off with a younger sister and getting DF'd. What happened to him? He was reinstated a year after and is now back giving those wonderful talks at the District conventions....

  Will

  "I am quite sure now that often, very often, in matters concerning religion and politics a man's reasoning powers are not above the monkey's."
  Mark Twain
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  teenyuck

  This was one of the issues my parents faced. My mother would not (after becoming a JW), my dad still wanted it and ended up finding some accomodating female.

  Cut 10 years later....my mother remarried a worldly guy from IRAQ!!! (try to figure that one out) He was a non-practicing muslim.

  Since he was 10 years younger than my mother I was presented to his family (mother and sisters who recently came to USA) as her younger sister....they said I was living with my mother (fictional sister) because our mother had abandoned me. (really messy time in my life)

  Well, Zaia (his real name) liked all kinds of porno and types of sex. My mother was in a tizzy. He would come home from work, take a shower and demand that she come to the bedroom. She refused to provide BJ's and he would beat the crap out of her.

  They divorced about 2 1/2 years after they married. She told the elders she was scripturally free. She has never even dated anyone since. This was 18 years ago.

  In my opinion, my mother lost her first husband because of her refusal to do this and then gave the Iraqi bastard a reason to beat her.

  I think it's a great way to bond!
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  Yerusalyim

  Puffs,

  In fairness to your mum (whacky broad, her) Iraqi dude, didn't need an excuse nor did she give him one to beat her. Oral is something people do for love or lust, but it can not should not be coerced. (Is oral sex when you TALK about it? If so, is anal sex when you're an ass about it?)

  Me I like ORAL!

  
  YERUSALYIM
  "Vanity! It's my favorite sin!"
  [Al Pacino as Satan, in "DEVIL'S ADVOCATE"]
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  Solace

  What a couple does together is their own buisness.
  I dont think a loving couple should let anything come between them. I wonder what my husbands response would be if I told him I would deny him this. He would probably say, "o.k. then, none for you". Sounds like a lose lose situation if you ask me.
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  bigfloppydog

  Personally, I believe what goes on between a husband and wife regarding sex is totally private, and their own business. No one else has any business buttin in. I have only been with one man, and I know for a fact that oral sex, can be very sensual to both partners.
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  Mulan

  I always wondered how you would have the nerve to talk about this subject to elders...........or anyone else. Yikes.......so personal. Absolutely no one elses business.

  Marilyn (aka Mulan)
  "No one can take advantage of you, without your permission." Ann Landers
  
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  gumby

  William Penwell:.."Well he ended up taking off with a younger sister and getting DF'd. What happened to him? He was reinstated a year after and is now back giving those wonderful talks at the District conventions....

  My how they must have liked him, and how things have changed!It was not too long ago (10 years)ago, that an elder was fondaling a couple of different sisters,got caught, and was told by the CO he could be an elder again in as little as three years!

  This elder was a relief CO, the PO in the congregation, and an ex-bethelite.

  Puffsrule: Sorry for your mom's fate.

  Isn't it odd how many sisters will divorce their mate, only to hook up with some loser who is three times worse than the first.
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  William Penwell

  Isn't it funny how the topics that mention Oral Sex gets the most reads...

  puffsrule wrote:

  my mother remarried a worldly guy from IRAQ!!! (try to figure that one out) He was a non-practicing muslim.

  I thought Muslims didn't have sex? Or I have heard that they are waiting for their reward in heaven of 40 vestal virgins...

  Will

  "I am quite sure now that often, very often, in matters concerning religion and politics a man's reasoning powers are not above the monkey's."
  Mark Twain