Well, Had a LOOooooOOng conversation with the missus again after being accused of being overly critical of the bOrg.
What came out?
I stated that I thought the bOrg was marvellous, full of really good people, (in OUR experience, it HAS been so far), but that I had difficulty with the DOGMATIC stance we had on certain issues that we couldn't possibly be sure about, and that if I were to vocalise any of these issues and unrepentantly not change my thinking, then I could be DF'd for that, which I view as an unloving bullying tactic. Organ transplants, vaccinations, (Jah will resurrect, don't worry), new understandings of the FaDS and generations etc..
Particularly the thought that only JW's will be saved. This issue KEPT coming up, and we went into it in some detail.
She says that in all her years she's NEVER read a statement of that type, and that most of the brothers would agree that there'll be LOADS of good people that will not be destroyed. But she would NOT back down that the official stance is that only JW's will be saved.
I've written a list of quotes out. Should I show her or just leave them on the table for her to accidentally find?
It all ended well, I assured her of my love for her, we hugged at the end, she said she'd rather KNOW what's going on in my mind than have me bottle it up, and I'm certain she won't talk about my doubts to anyone. BUT she remains of the opinion that yes, it's a MAN-run bOrg, we've got stuff wrong in the past and probably have stuff wrong right now, but that OVERALL, the good far outweighs the bad, and it takes faith to gloss over the bad. Jah will rectify in his own due time. He let the bOrg carry on smoking for ages, but eventually sorted it out, and he will again. Who else preaches (I replied "lots"), who else uses Jah's name (I replied "lots"), AH, but who else on a scale that we do? (I didn't reply as I don't know!)
I wish I had a good arguing/discussing head. I did better than last time though, who knows, maybe I've sown some seeds.....