BIG conversation with the missus MKII. Ended well. Wish I could argue better! (page 2)

Captain Blithering

Good stuff cofty, thanks for that, I'll digest that reasoning for the future....

Daniel1555

Thanks guys. You are just great.

A little later this week I will write some more about it. Of course I am sad but at least in a strange way she treats me in a friendly way again. She is a victim of the bOrg as we all are in a way.

DS211

Er reality is being challenged....anger, resentment...these are products of that challenge..the acceptance comes later....or they continue to deny

Captain. Very good that you and the misses were able to talk things through. Now then, please, give her some space with this to digest this. This is big for her and her perception of all things will change. Don't you be the dogmatic one. She knows now. Anything new right away will come across as you being pushy or dogmatic. Who knows, after sorting through this, she may come back with her own misgivings about the Org, but they hav eto be HER misgivings. That will take some time.

Captain Blithering

You're right bob.. Time and space. I've written this list of WT quotes out but I won't force them on her unless she asks. I'll leave them buried in my desk, IF she stumbles upon them then so be it.

Ding

Give her some space and listen more than you talk.

Things that don't trouble you about the organization may trouble her.

Captain Blithering

Correcticles. I definitely need to listen more..

Bob_NC

Oh by the way. When it was me in your spot, my wife initially listened and then asked if I might be under the influence of Satan, Satan being one to mislead many and transforms himself into an angel of light. I told her that I didn't think so at all, but that I would continue to study and pray about all things. We didn't talk about it much for many weeks, it might have been months. I was supportive of what she was doing with the Kingdom Hall. She was even a pioneering at the time. But she knew how I felt.

Long story short. She left on her own terms with very little doing of me. Her leaving had to be on her terms. I planted some seeds. The seeds fell on fertile ground, but she had to allow them to grow, not me.

DS211

Thats the same with me...like when my wife asked how are they going to have kids in the mew system of things since luke chapter.....oh i forget...says that in the system to come they will not be given in marriage--therefore no babies since we cannot have kids out of wedlock right? i agreed that she was correct and the org was wrong.

problemaddict

Daniel! I am sorry to hear how that went. Don't give up on her man. Really take your husbandness to the next level. Make sure she knows how much you love her and how unconditional that is.

She has no scriptural grounds to separate from you according to the WT, so she is "stuck" with you. I know that is not ideal, but the threat to separate is empty. Don't test it, just tell her that it hurts you when she says those things, because nothing she could do would make you stop loving her.

Your love is UNconditional. Hers is CONditional. Help her see that without telling her.

I'm sorry my man. PM me if you ever want to talk.

BIG conversation with the missus MKII. Ended well. Wish I could argue better!

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