by cognitivedizzy 63 Replies latest jw friends
Hey everybody, been here lurking for years now... I tired of all the GB 2.0 shit and need to Fade successfully
Do we have a guide, I am very tempted to go out with a bang, But I want my wife with me, she aint a strong witness and would happily trust me ... I love her a lot
Status as of now,,, read CoC isocf, been through JW facts and am convinced this religion is BS, also a MS now :( damn
When I decided to leave/fade I was also an MS. For me the first thing was giving up this position, I made the mistake of giving a reason why I no longer wanted to be an MS.
If you decided to resign your position as an MS, give them no reason as to why you have done that. If the elders insist on speaking to you about it, refuse.
Just grab two elders as one of the meetings start, and clearly state you no longer want to be an MS, it does not have to be written. That is how I did it, but unfortunately I gave a reason why, and they came back to me and wanted to talk about the reason, I then refused.
Wow. Welcome to the forum cognitivedizzy. Fading from elder or ms is harder but still possible. Read some of the threads on here from other successful faders.
My advice, get your wife to go with you and start to get phrases memorized like 'We are getting so stressed and down about this system (or work, family, whatever) that making the meetings is hard, but we are really trying' 'thank you brothers for your concern'.
If you want to step aside you will probably have to serve for awhile with limited duties due to your 'stress and depression'.
Fading can take awhile.
Thanks for the advise guys, but frankly I come from a very high control congregation, there is absolutely no elder here with a heart, all made up rules and especially extra rules made up by them that even the society would find ridiculous. been in this cong for over a decade and finding out TTATT has made me sick to the stomach...
If you want to go out with a bang, that is is course your right and your choice... But "going out with a bang" and "fading" are two mutually exclusive things.
Which do you want?
going out with a bang is self explanitory. You will end up DF'd but its on your terms. If you dont have family who will shun you then who cares :)
however if you need to or want to fade then the number one key is: patience. Absolute zen inner peace patience. Dont give into feelings of anxiety or a desire to run around screaming. You have the power. You are now in control because you know the real deal. Bide your time and be smart.
Resign immediately as an M.S. - no more pressure of dealing with "assignments" and promoting lies from the platform.
State categorically to the Elders that it is for "personal reasons", and point-blank refuse to discuss your "personal" reasons! I did it, & and it ticks them off!! :)
Begin your fade by quitting the Ministry School, reducing/eliminating ministry time & meeting attendance, and just refuse to attend assemblies & the convention! Anyone asks for an explanation, "We have private & personal issues to deal with, but we take them in prayer to Jehovah."
Going out with a bang eliminates all of the above!
Best wishes on your choice.
