I need some urgent advice, please!! (page 2)

LisaRose

Perhaps if you back off from the frontal assault it might be better. She is obviously confused, you are putting her in a very difficult position, you are her husband, supposedly her spiritual head, but you are attacking everything she believes in. In such a situation, her defences are up. Calm down and let her sit with it a bit. Perhaps she just needs time, or perhaps she is not the right one for you. Only you and she can answer that.

I know if my husband had done the same to me I would have not gone along, I had to get there on my own.

happy@last

Welcome, some great advice above I can only reiterate. If you want to save her it will take time. If you think she is better with her family around her, it could be time to move on if there are no children involved .

objectivetruth

My wife is Brazilian and has a large family in Brazil.. I completely understand the difficulties that a tight family can pose.

What I can recommend is, don't try and prove the society wrong, rather prove the Bible right.. Many people get caught up in fleshly thinking, and they judge the organization for its actions..

Show her how the witnesses rejoice that all "worldly" people will die at Armageddon, and ask her if this is Love. Show her that even the sodomites will be resurrected.

This is one apology that can make some think..

The Israelites were Gods chosen "organization".. If you were an Israelite, you would have NO DOUBT that Jehovah had chosen the nation as his people, he gave many signs and miracles to prove it. Now if you were an Israelite, and you saw one of your "governing body" members assisting in the building of a calf for false worship, would you be excused at judgement day if you followed the lead? Exodus 32

tie-in Galatians 1:8'- But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach a gospel other than the one we preached to you, let them be under God's curse!

It can be a VERY TOUGH journey if she is one that doesn't know the bible and she doesn't know the org.. You can overcome it though.

Try your hardest to keep your marriage in tact.

My wife and I would like to help you, and we can assist you in Portuguese. PM me if we can help.

With Christian Love

NAVYTOWN

Just make absolutely SURE there is no pregnancy until you get this situation resolved. Birth control, condoms...whatever works!!!

jean-luc picard

hello alonein.

you say that you are not willing to do anything to save the mariage, but are sorry that it has been so short.

Remember that this is just a sentiment. mariage is based on love and respect.

Think carefully, but dont waste your life or hers either. Honesty. be honest with both of you.

and whatever you decide, may you find happiness

Black Sheep

sarahsmile

I have been trying to write you for hours! Sorry I have no wisdom on the subject so only you know what to do. The dark path not willing to work on what? marriage.

Ok but I do know what being under shock looks like,and being depressed because the scales on my eyes have fallen off! My fantasy paradise crushed. Being so angry that I point out doctrine errors to people who do not recognize their own doctrines! I hope you regonize that when your no longer blinded by doctrines you go through all kinds of shock,anxiety,denial,anger,and arguing to wake people up. After all who will you share your findings with family. However, their are some people who just do not care about knowing the errors they just walk away and live life! I was not one of them and after watching them live life and seeing how they do it. My life became better. Now,I do not need to argue and just live life. Frankly it is kind of shocking but the majority of exjw do not care and just live life.

Your making your problem hers so when you understand that you do not need to argue doctrines any more. It frees you up to be the man who is looking out for his wives happiness. If it makes her happy to be a JW as long as you can find common grounds that is all you want for her is to be is happy. Common grounds,she respects your no longer a JW and wants you to be happy no matter what.

Hope that helps.

Fernando

Welcome alonein321!

May you and your wife be able to patiently and progressively explore peaceful solutions that can deliver the best outcomes for you both.

Whether you want to save the marriage or not, it is not productive to beat a blind person with a stick because they cannot see what you can.

At any rate there are many here that will do their best to support you whichever way to choose to go in life.

We look forward to getting to know you better, and hope for the best outcome possible.

Greetings

Fernando

KateWild

Welcome alonein321,

Well done for all the research you have done. You thoroughly know TTATT. The next stage is saving your wife from WT and your marriage or coming to the conclusion it's not worth it.

Only you can really know which direction to take. You know what it was that brought you together, you know what qualities you were drawn to. Think about your bond you have now and if that is something you want to save, she will have to let go of her family, but if you both fade it won't be so bad. Many extended family menbers stay in touch with those that have faded.

Look at all the pros and cons alonein123 and decide a way forward. Keep us informed, all the best Kate xx

tim hooper

I'm afraid giving up JW's is similar to giving up smoking. You have to do it for yourself. The other person has to want to do it.

I need some urgent advice, please!!

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