Welcome. Congrats on waking up mentally.
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by fakefading 66 Replies latest jw experiences
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dazed but not confused
Welcome. Looking forward to hearing more of your story.
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ABibleStudent
Welcome fakefading, I wish you the best to help your JW family to critically think for themselves. I hope that you continue to post on JWN to vent your frustrations so that your JW family does not become suspicious of your beliefs.
With a little planning on your part, you have many options to enjoy your life with your wife:
- Read Steve Hassan's books ("Combatting Cult Mind Control", "Releasing the Bonds: Empowering People to Think for Themselves", and (his latest book) "Freedom of Mind: Helping Loved Ones Leave Controlling People, Cults and beliefs"), visit his website www.freedomofmind.com, and/or watch Steve Hassan's videos on his website to help your JW family to critically think for themselves.
- Ask your wife simple questions to learn more about how she thinks and feels about her childhood feelings/experiences, as well as her authentic persona's feelings. Your objective should be to learn more about your wife's authentic persona and how to help it overcome your wife's cult persona.
- Help your wife to meet non-JWs, who she might share common interests.
- Encourage your wife to have non-JW and time consuming hobbies that might help her to meet non-JWs.
- Help your wife to use the internet. Your objective would be to help her learn how to be a smarter consumer such as to find better and cheaper accomodations when attending DC's. Also, by staying away from other JWs it might help her authentic persona to control her cult persona.
- Hold home Bible studies with your wife to help her to recognize how the Pharisees and Sadducees used BITE control techniques to victimize Jews and how Jesus Christ felt about it. DO NOT draw parrallels between the WTBTS and the Pharisees and Sadducees. Let your wife do that on her own.
- Research how to overcome WTBTS thought-stopping platitudes that your wife uses. Posting on JWN and reading www.jwfacts.com may gve you ideas.
- Talk to your wife about getting additional education/training that will help you to provide greater financial security for your family, as well as miss more meetings.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
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whathappened
You poor thing! You must be in a fix!
Welcome here, you can vent all you like. We are here for you.
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Honesty
Welcome!
Take it easy with your spouse if you want your marriage to survive.
I unloaded TTATT on mine and she couldn't handle it.
That was over 10 years ago and I haven't seen my youngest child in 6 years after she or her handlers decided I am too apostate for the child to have as association.
I hope you don't have any children.
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clarity
Well hi there FakeFading! a big welcome to jwn!
Please know that you get to make your own decisions on here!
Don't share any detail that will out you and ..... enjoy the process.
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We are all at different stages on here, I am on the horns of
a dilemma also, but for different reasons!
Look forward to seeing more of your posts, glad you
have such good friends for now. :-)
clarity
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smiddy
Welcome fakefading , glad to have you on board . A R.P. ? I hope you can steer any interest , if their is still any out their to this site or jw facts.LOL
smiddy
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NewYork44M
Welcome to our little family. I hope your time here provides a reasonable balance to the rest of your life.
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happy@last
Welcome, glad you are coping mentally, and yes have fun. You only get one shot of life so make the most of it.
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Comatose
Welcome! So glad to have you! :) I was a long time MS and was a pioneer for years after high school and getting married. Hadn't pioneered for a good while when I found out TTATT. I know its a rough time when you wake up. If you ever need to chat PM me and we can talk at length. Best wishes!