by quellycatface 28 Replies latest jw friends
That is essentially what happened to me the other day when I saw an elder in the local market. I posted about it here: http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/experiences/275776/1/JW-encounters-How-about-you#.UxsyT4USWHc
It shouldn’t get to us, but it does. I just wish they could see how much like the Pharisees they are. Fu*king hypocrites.
Stand up straight, look them in the eye, smile then turn and walk away. You have nothing to be ashamed of, they are the ones being self righteous, deluded cult members. It will get easier as time goes on, but never let them make you feel small. You are the smart one, you figured it out, you got your freedom, they didn't, you should feel a little, tiny bit sorry for them. You have the whole world to experience, they are still in the mental prison of JW life.
She's working.She has to be polite to (polite) customers. If after a warm greeting and kind words from you, she snubs you, tell the management. I think that people need to be responsible for their actions and being rude to a paying customer who is polite and decent is not an option, particularly in that industry (if the store has any kind of CS standards at all, and most do).
That is not to be vindictive, it needs to be brought to their attention that rudeness is not only impolite, it is damaging to business and reputation. It is simply not a correct response merely because someone drops out of a church. Bosses don't have to accept it just because it is their religion to shun people. If she is rude to you, it doesn't matter why. It isn't about religious discrimination, it is simply against polite behavior and checkers are supposed to be at least minimally courteous. The JW could bring up the reliigous aspect and show the WT/JW's off as totally asses, but she might hesitate to be so blatant and offer a tepid apology.
It will still be going in her file.
Next time it happens simply ask her, "Is there a problem?"
There is of course, her attitude!
The elders wife is a deluded woman who truly believes she is something special, in reality she is an arrogant, shallow woman who works in a supermarket.
The religion has a diminishing effect on it's worshippers and this can lead to them behaving in a way that is cold and unfeeling to another. The fact that her behaviour unsettled you is quite normal and it gives you an opportunity to plan how you will behave in future should a similar event happen again. By preparing in advance you will feel less caught off guard and more in control and the encounter will have less power to upset you.
Quellycatface , it is hurtful when this happens .No one likes to feel rejected or snubbed . She should be careful doing that while she is on the job ! As stated by jwdaughter ,she is an employee ,and is expected to treat customers with respect . I would bring it to a managers attention if it happens again . You have the right as a customer to be treated with dignity . Stand up to this behavior ,and you won't feel so bad .
I work in a shop ,and I have had WItnesses open the front door see that I am the clerk for the day, and they just turn right back around and leave . It use to hurt ,but as time goes on I just laugh that kind of stuff off. Some Witnesses will come into the shop ,and just act very robotic 'all business' like even though we have known each other for over 30 yrs ,but at least they converse.
Our grocery store now has a JW check out clerk .She is young and has known me her whole life . She will be courteous ,but never asks anything personal . Which is fine with me as long as she is not rude .
The weirdest experiences are running into my husbands step family that are JW . They are so rude it really is shocking .I have literally run right into his sister in law at the grocery store ,said her name and hello ,and she looks over my head as if I am invisible ....it is a really creepy feeling . The last time it happened I turned a corner, and bumped right into both of them ,and they acted like zombies ,no reponse at all . I busted up laughing ,and wished I had said, " becareful out in the rain ,because you may drown with your noses stuck so far up in the air ! "
Just last week though their JW son actually said hello to me in the store and asked how i was ! So you can never guess if or when one will talk to you .
The more society hears about this the better - seriously. Normal, sane, (especially "Christians") human beings cannot believe this sick, shun-snitting behavior, and I can't tell you how many non-witnesses have mentioned this to me. An employee at high end store shunned me after our very brief conversation about her Gawd one fine day and didn't like my reply - and I was kind at that! Since then noticing how store manager makes effort to greet me and chit chat has changed the dynamics a tad and the shunner is always, coincidentally, showing up wherever I happen to turn and I take off in other direction - frustrating when I'm trying to take care of business and wrap up my shopping. Gonna have to mention to another ex witness in store to have her back off it's hurting store sales. I do not want to mention to manager - ya know about returning evil fear of mine. Stupid cult.
DOC, I wouldn't bring up the religious aspect. Just treating any customer like that can be grounds for dismissal. Let the shunning jw try to use a religious reason first.
I agree with you there, Blondie. The fact is that if they would bring up the religious situation as their reason for shunning, they've admitted to the "religious discrimination".
And, even if DFd, I would never agree to play by their rule of submitting to shunning. They might shun me, but I'd never "respect their rules" and agree to follow it (unless I was attempting to get back in for family reasons, etc). I recall a video posted here where a DAd/DFd xJW calls the Service Dept to inquire about the Awake! magazine quote that anyone choosing a different religion should not be subject to punitive treatment. The Service Dept rep tells him to "respect the DF arrangement". BS! I'd never "respect" an arrangement that encourages/forces others to abuse me to my face. MAKE THEM LOOK LIKE ASSES IN PUBLIC. Then they can try to explain their hateful, unChristian actions.
[stepping off of soapbox]
Doc
Quelly... just sours the experience doesn't it.
Where do these people get off with this crappy behavior!
These same people in their little group, act so pious & 'good'.
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When it happens to me ..... it feels like a bad dream....wtf am I,
one act (joining a 'nice' group) that seemed so safe, such 'nice'
people .....landed me into a fricken nightmare!
I joined Girl Guides as a kid 10 yrs before and did all my friends
shun me when it was over? NO! The Anglican Church? No!
The Lutherans? No!
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And yet these brain dead drones think they rule the world!!!!!
clarity
Cheer up quellycatface. Once you overcome your WTBTS induced phobias you will be free of the WTBTS and your life will have unlimited possibilities. That sister may never be more than a whipped slave to the WTBTS and her husband.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
