by MrMoe 39 Replies latest jw friends
(((((((((Moe and Emily)))))))))))
Sorry to hear the long year of adversities that you had.
Keep your head high and hang in there. Life is hard and unfair. It is supposed to be and to make it thru life you gotta be special and you're special and I am certain you'll overcome these adversities.
Where in Florida do you live?
Also, TweetieBird, what part of Central Florida are you? I am in Orlando.
regards,
AjaxMan
Mr. Moe,
Billygoat posted this a little earlier, but thought it might help.
Thanks, Billygoat.
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen.
She filled three pots with water.
In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans.
She let them sit and boil without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma.
The daughter then asked. "What's the point, mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. " When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"
Think of this: Which am I?
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level? How do you handle Adversity?
ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?
That's a hell of a list Amanda. You must be a very strong young women. When you are feeling a bit better about things, maybe after playing with Emily, make up a list about positive things that have happened to you. I doubt the positive list is going to be nearly as long because you have had a lousy year. But there will be some things on there to cheer yourself up.
Take care of yourself.
Never Squat With Yer Spurs On
(((((amanda)))))
don't ever give up hun. things will get better! they have to. you have had one hell of a year and it will only make you stronger in the end. you are a survivor and a fighter so fight like hell hun and you will be able to get over this year and all the shit it brought with it.
sending lots of love your way.
love
harmony
I really, really wish I could help you out in any way possible - but I can't, mainly 'cause I'm on the other side of the planet. You're a strong woman, I'll give you that...most other people in your situation would've been basket cases or worse by now. We're all thinking about you and hoping things improve ((((MrMoe))))
"If men were like their personal ads, they wouldn't need personal ads."
(((((((((Amanda)))))))))
I'm so sorry for your troubles. You have just been through the wringer!
Your ex was a bum and you're better off (not financially, i know) without him. You know this.
You are a strong, vibrant, lovely young woman, and an adored mother (and daughter, too, I'll bet).
Things look dark now, but Emily IS your sunshine, and your love for one another will see you through.
I remember how distraught I was when my father died and then when my mother nearly did. If you want to talk privately, my e-mail is open.
Hang in there, Moe!
outnfree
If you must choose between two evils, pick the one you've never
tried before.
Ok, over my pity party now. Thanks for listening, think I needed to vent a bit. Damn it, I have been through way more shit than the last year, and I will do it. My life has given me my fair share of hard knocks, but then again, who doesn't have crap to deal with. I need to realize I still got it good. So many people have had some terrible things happen to them, and I am fortunate that the one thing in my life that means so much - Emmie, has never been harmed. She is the perfect little girl, and I am so very lucky to have her alive and safe from harm. Just sometimes you think you reach that breaking point - then you break-down, stop, rest and regroup. I am just trying to regroup. That list, oh my, went through a lot more than that last year, but much of it is far too personal to go into...
Hugs to you all for your support, means more to me than you will EVER EVER POSSIBLY realize.
As far where I live, I live near Fort Myers, Florida.
Did some rooting, I read this when I get down. I posted it a while back, after I told my ex husband to leave. And even though it is rather sad, it brings happy tears to my eyes... Here it is:
~~~~~
I was sitting on the couch listening to Moby (the CD Songs) crying my eyes out. I was having a very lonely yet very beautiful soulful moment. My Emmie walked into the room. We had a heart-to-heart, and this is what we said, almost word for word:
(My little girl said to me)
Mommy, why are you crying?
I said --
Because I love somebody
We just haven’t found each other yet.
Or maybe we never will.
Then she said
Yes, but mommy, why are you crying?
I said --
My soul is not complete, my dear
And I think I will die alone.
Yes, but Mommy, WHY are you crying?
Well...
Because I thought I found the One
But I was so very wrong
The One would be more beautiful than any other
And the One would never cause me pain
I would have no fear
They would be my light
They would be my shelter
And they would make my cold heart blaze with the warmth of 10 Suns.
YES, but Mommy WHY are you CRYING?
Because my dear...
I took a long pause and then I said --
Emmie, I love you
More than any other
You have been there for me
When nobody else even cared
Your little heart touched mine
And when one day
I close my eyes
And I do not wake
Please remember, my little precious one
I am with you always
And nothing
Nothing
Can break your mother’s love.
Then she looked at me and smiled
With a sparkle in her eye
And said the sweetest thing my ears could ever hear
I love you too, Mommy
((((((((((Amanda and Emily))))))))))
Always,
Cowboy
It took me quite a while to realize that the real deal is to be able to be enough of a person on your own to know when somebody loves you and cares about you.
~Stevie Ray Vaughn
Ok, over my pity party now. Thanks for listening, think I needed to vent a bit. Damn it, I have been through way more shit than the last year, and I will do it.
What's amazing is that you still can sit back and have a positive outlook - you have a very strong spirit.
Sometimes life just gets that hard. And you can't do anything but, completely numb, go through the motions for a while. I can't even say it'll get better, because, you know, sometimes it doesn't.
But, if you can still find joy in things, you'll do okay after all.
We are all here for you if you need to talk, too.
Xander F
(Unseen Apostate Directorate of North America - Ohio order)A fanatic is one who, upon losing sight of his goals, redoubles his efforts.
--George Santayana
1. Lost my religion ( me too that was good)
)2. Lost mom and dad for a while (now they speak to me thank goodness) mine are dead
3. Lost my job (found a job after a year had a heart attack four hours into it. Don't have a job anymore.
4. Got a new job (oh this was the only good thing last year) (still don't)
5. Got beat to a bloody pulp by my ex (referr to # 16)
6. Got cheated on by my ex (referr to # 16)
7. Took the ex back (ooops)
8. Ex hold knife to my throat tries to kill me referr to # 16)
9. Got beat some more (referr to #16)
10. Dad had heart surgery ( mines dead)
11. Got cheated on again ( wasn't by ex I hope) referr to #16
12. Dad had more heart surgery (mines dead)
13. Came back from business trip found condom wrappers ( evidence)
14. Told the ex to leave (good)
15. Had to file restraining order against ex (great- don't reconcile please)
16. Ex tried to kill himself in my presence (good)
17. Enter financial ruin ( can work yourself out of it)
18. Both parents in the hospital ( you can visit them at one time saves on gas)
19. Dad has more surgery
20. Mom has more surgery
21. Told dad has a year max to live ( We were told in 1972 our son had a week to live he lived for 16 years more.)
22. Started part-time job (don't get paid for a few weeks still) (the check will come.)
23. Mother sick in the hospital once again
24. No more time with my amazing daughter Emilly ( sad,- my 37 year old daughter will not speak to me or let me see my grand kids)
25. Told mother is going to die ( referr to #21)
26. Screwed by friends and family ( make new friends and pray for family)
27. Daycare just told me find a new daycare - they are closing down ( well they are worse than you, they just lost their income. You may be able to find another.
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