My conversation with my mother in law. (page 2)

Fernando

Very well reasoned, and very well done ecan6.

ThomasCovenant

''cheered by people who, in the end, are clapping simply because the brother ended his sentence on a high note.''

JunkYardDog

I forgot the best part is . YOUR WIFE AND YOU ARE DOING THIS TOGETHER...

Crazyguy

Excellent conversation, when you teach love like Jesus did the JW's religion loses every time.

JunkYardDog, the fact that my wife is with me on this makes my life a whole lot easier. And yet, I feel we are still both under a great amount of stress as we are not entirely free. As long as we are not D/A, we have some accountability to the Witnesses and our friends who still are. As a result, we are not entirely free to speak out minds or to live our lives as we would truly whish.

I believe we will be able to do so in the long run, perhaps in another few years, but until then, we must take great caution in anything we say and do publically and this in itself is a solid load on our mutual shoulders.

At least, the fact that we can bear this load together makes it much easier.

ThomasCovenant, I believe a great deal of JWs clap their hands or say Amen without asking themselves: “Do I agree with this?”.

KateWild: We told our parents our beliefs as they are the very reasons why we do not get disfellowshipped. If they decide to go tell the elders, then so be it. However, I’m not the type to go out without a fight; they would have to face me, in a JC - twice! Yes, when I'll have a JC, I will automatically request an appeal. I doubt that my mother in law realy wants to go through this process.

Aroq

ecan6,

You do not have any accoutability to anyone but God. Not the org, not those who are in and not to a man made society. You ARE free, you just need to remind yourself of that.

The only control they have over you is what you give them.

StephaneLaliberte

Aroq, actions that I take now may have a ripple effect on people I love around me. This love makes me accountable to them and unfortunately, to the very authority to which they submit, the JW congregation. As a result, though inactive, I must pretend that I only need a break and have nothing against the teachings! This makes me look spiritually weak, but not apostate.

Expressing publically that I no longer believe the doctrines would cause my disfellowshipping and my loved ones would require time and energy to review their own beliefs and motives. Unfortunately, for some, I can tell they already have challenges that would make it to much to handle right now.

This is why, I must remain silent until the train passes and then, take a stand. At least, I have great hope that this will inevitably happen in a few years from now. At that time, I will purposefully request shepherding calls and go out in a blaze of glory. Some of these elders have been my friends and I find it very difficult to bit my tongue. But my love for my friends and family outweighs my desire to set these self-righteous men straight - at least, for now.

problemaddict

Good conversation...The DFing convo always with me seems to end in "but there is a biblical precident for it". Ugh. Even when I explain the nuances, I don't seem to get anywhere. Very odd.

Aroq

ecan6,

I can accept what you are saying and commend you for thinking it through and having a plan. My only insert was that you do not owe loyalty to anyone but God and your family. I can see that it troubles you that you cannot get out from under this as quickly as you would like, and for that I am both sorry and grateful that you see it and want it. God will see you through.

My conversation with my mother in law.

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