They are not talking about what people do in bed. They are talking about what people do in LIFE. The "gay habit" is reduced to a sex act, completely avoiding equal right movement, the Stonewall riots, and every activist that was attacked, beaten and killed in the line of duty just so that we, in 2014, can stand up on their shoulders and not be ashamed about who we are... IN PUBLIC everyday life... not in the bedroom.
The minimalizing of what it means to be gay to just what happens in the bedroom is not just a dampening of natural human tendencies (which is psychologically damaging and aids in internal destructive emotions)... it's a war on culture.
MY culture.