A psychiatrist told this story while in Houston, Texas in front of an international group of psychologists, psychiatrists and social workers:
An 8 year old girl received a heart from a 10 year old murder victim. The 8 year old had horrible dreams of a man that had murdered her donor. The police were called. She gave descriptions of the time, weapon, place, clothes, and what the little girl he killed had said to him - everything she said was true. The police, from a physical description, found the murderer and confirmed all the little girl had stated.
A forty-one-year-old male received a heart of a nineteen-year-old girl was killed when her car was struck by a train: He feels a new raw energy, surging with power. Dreams of a huge truck and/or driving a steam engine. His wife comments that he is like a 19 year-old kid again. He is sure that his donor was driving a big truck that hit a bigger truck.
A thirty-six-year-old female heart-lung recipient received heart and lung from a twenty-year old girl who was killed while running across the street to show her fianc a picture of her new wedding dress: She dreams of the girl who was killed, she was young, pretty and very happy. Has a new happiness and a strange kind of excitement and joy that cannot fully be explained. Sister remarks: She is so much happier now, she smiles and laughs more (she's always been a downer) She is lucky to have gotten a very warm heart.
Thirty-five-year-old female received a new heart from a twenty-four-year-old prostitute killed in a stabbing: Feels a complete change in sexual behavior and inherited her sexual drive. Husband: She uses words she has never used before, sex is just different but he's not complaining.
Fifty-two-year-old male heart recipient got the heart from a seventeen-year-old boy killed by a hit-and-run driver: Loved quiet classical music prior to transplantation, now loves to put on earphones and play loud rock n'roll music. I love my wife but I keep fantasizing about teenage girls. My daughter says I seem like 16 again. Daughter: He is a little embarrassing because of the music, mom says he is going through his second childhood.
Forty-seven-year-old female received a donor heart of a twenty-three-year-old gay man shot to death in a robbery and died from severe wounds to his back: She wonders how she views her husband now from a male or female perspective. Since the surgery she has had shooting pains in her back and guesses it is the surgery acting up. Husband: Asks about gay fantasies and has changed style of dressing to a more feminine one. She wakes up screaming with pain in her back.
Glenda and David had an argument and sat in silence just moments before he was killed in a car accident.. Years later she requested a meeting between her and the young man whose life had been saved by her husbands gift, his heart. The heart recipient and his mother were almost a 1/2 hour late for the meeting. Sometimes people change their minds about meeting. After standing, Glenda says, "No we have to wait. He's here in the hospital. I felt him come about 30 minutes ago. I felt my husbands presence. Please wait with me."
Glenda is a practicing family physician and well versed in bioscience, now, however, something that transcends science was tugging at her heart. "David's heart is here," she added. "I can't believe I'm saying that to you, but I feel it." At that moment the young man and his mother walked hurriedly to us.
"Sorry we're late," said the young man with a heavy Spanish accent. "We got here a half hour ago but we couldn't find the chapel." After introductions, usually shy Glenda blurted out, "This embarrasses me as much as it must embarrass you, but can I put my hand on your chest and feel his...I mean your heart?"
She placed her hands gently against his now unbuttoned naked chest. What happened next transcends the current view of the brain, body, heart and mind, but it has happened in various forms in the lives of countless others.
Glenda's hand trembled, tears rolled down her cheek. She closed her eyes and whispered, " I love you David. Everything is copacetic." She removed her hand and hugged the young man. All of us wiped tears from our eyes. They sat down in the chapel and held hands in silence. Speaking in her heavy Spanish accent, the young man's mothers told me. " My son uses that word "copacetic" all the time now. He never used it before he got his new heart, but after surgery, it was the first thing he said to me when he could talk. I didn't know what it means. It is not a word I know in Spanish.
Glenda overheard us, her eyes widened. "That was our signal that everything was OK. Over time we argued and made up, we would both say that everything was "copacetic".
The young man shared story after story of changes he experienced after the transplant.