joeshmoe, LOL!!
JW marriages
by Realist 40 Replies latest jw friends
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Realist
how do they make that public? with the WT broshures or this important information secretly mailed to everyone?
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joeshmoe
It was given as a "local needs" talk at a hall I attended not that many moons ago. They used nice, PC terminology to discuss issues of "oral sex". Though the funniest thing had to be when the speaker asked the audience to try and get the "flavor" of the term. I almost fell out of my seat!!
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Amazing
Hi Realist: Interesting questions you pose.
I am guessing that JW marriages have about the same divorce rate vs lasting happiness rate as any other religious or non-religious couple. Sex before, during, or after marriage is not a prerequisit for a happy marriage ... it just makes things a lot nicer if a couple connects love and sex together. Not all couples can do this.
JW marriages have additional strains, such as the man, if an Elder, using his time that should have been spent at home with wife and children, he is off to JC meetings, or filling out paperwork, or at an Elder's meeting. Or the wife is out in Service as a frequent Aux Pioneer, and not at home with husband and children. The heavy expectations to have everything perfect in one's life to reflect well on their marketing god makes for extra strain ... and the unrealistic expectations of children along with "too many" social restrictions (kids need some guidance and limits) ... makes for extra stress ... and then the pressure not to get ahead in life, can often mean financial stress ... and money problems are at the root of many marital difficulties - regardless of religious affiliation ...
I think JW marriages have some decided disadvantages, and few advantages ... at lease no advantages I can think of ... so I cannot believe that their marriages are necessarily stronger, more happy, or lasting than the rest of the world ... If two people really love one another, they can endure much together ... and I suspect that the lasting and happy JW marriages that do exist are so, not because of the religion, but in spite of it. [:D]
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HomebutHiding
JoeShmoe...I was married, and a witness for nearly 22 yrs....I can say that it was the stipulations imposed by the society, particularly as they related to sexual matters, which contributed largely to the misery I suffered in that relationship. That, added to the fact that he had been sanctioned to be my head, master, and decisionmaker. Well, no more, baby! I have left him, left the org (somebody kindly tell me what borg means? I am new to this) I am remarried and guiltfree, unrestrained, imaginative (Jesus, cover your eyes) sex is liberating and wonderful.
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joeshmoe
You go HomeButHiding!
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joeshmoe
The Borg were these big badies on the Star Trek TV show. Their minds were all linked together and controlled by a central leader -- I think you can get why many people here like to call the "org" the "borg"!
Edited by - joeshmoe on 15 June 2002 12:20:10
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DanTheMan
My Catholic parents, who should never have married in the first place, divorced when I was 16 or so.
When I started studying Watchtowerism with the JW's, I quickly, and naively, assumed that Watchtower marriages were by far happier than all others. Wasn't until after I publicly pledged allegiance to the WTBTS by being immersed in a pool of water that I started to see that my assumptions were incorrect. I agree with Amazing that successful, happy marriages among the Watchtowerists are more the exception than the rule, and occur in spite of the Watchtowerism.
I wish the 80 year olds in Brooklyn could spend a year as a semi-active, non-authority-position-holding JW in an ordinary congregation of Watchtowerists. How their fantasies of normal Watchtowerist lives would be crushed.
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joeshmoe
I agree completely Dan.
The GB may be well meaning (some of them anyway), but they are hopelessly out of touch with the lives of ordinary, day to day folks. From their sheltered little world in Brooklyn, they tell all their subjects how to lives they can't imagine.
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HomebutHiding
Got it, Joe...apt, to say the least.