I obviously wholeheartedly agree with you Andee, as I do engage in bi-sexual activity while in a committed relationship. It does all depend on the people involved.
Nick & I have our own rules with each other. We know our boundaries and why we don't want to cross them. We could not be in an open relationship. For us it would lead to too much jealousy. I know that sounds strange but true. It's just what works for us. And only us!
I did want to say something about what Refiner mentioned about men being bi-curious. It seems to me that bi-curiousity almost always applies to women. If a man expresses an interest in what it would be like to be with another man, he's instantly labeled gay even though he may never act on it or even want to. But when a woman is bi-curious, she is simply that...curious. No one calls her a lesbian because she wonders what it would be like to kiss a woman or even do something more. It is a double standard created by our homophobic society.
Shauna