If she was bisexual id be super happy. :)
After twenty years of marriage…
by John Aquila 34 Replies latest watchtower scandals
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PaintedToeNail
At the risk of offending gay people who say they are born that way, not made that way:
I wonder if she was always left alone with the kids while he played super elder, with all the field service, meeting parts, shepherding calls, quick builds, hall cleaning, elder meetings and so on. If so, maybe she found a friend(s) who helped her get through her loneliness and realized she loved that friend who cared more about her than her husband did.
I've said that to JW's, I understand why a woman would leave a man in the organization (or any absentee man) for a woman, the companionship and mutual affection. Needless to say, I would get the evil eye.
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steve2
Why direct questions at her when she lives in a society that condemns homosexuality? Besides, 20 years ago she may have fallen for the view that marriage will change you (some fundamentalist Christians still spout that line).
Women who come out as gay later in life have often reported that they were "confused" or unclear about their sexual preferences when younger. I would not want to blame her or accuse her of being dishonest.
If they have children and her husband and family of origin are JWs, she's got a hard road ahead of her. She will no doubt be assailed by FOG (fear, obligation and guilt). She will need a lot of support.
I hope she has found a good woman to love and spend her life with.
PaintedToenail suggests the woman may hsve become gay because her elder husband was absent. No PaintedToeNail you don offend me - instead you stagger me with your sweetly naive view on human sexuality. If only he treated her better, more lovingly, she wouldn't have turned gay. Oh, that is so nice!
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_Morpheus
I wouldnt be upset. Hell i pray for it everyday..... -
joe134cd
I know a similar case (well more exactly really) where something like this happened. Had everything going for him. He had wealth, all the kids pioneered etc, and she come out as gay. He re-married again and I believe is quite happy now. I think it would be a double blow for me, for 2 reasons.
1 she cheated with someone else.
2 That perhaps in the back ground she may of not been interested in me in the 1st place.
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sporece
More power to her....it happens every day and main thing is for her to find her happiness.
Only got one life to live.
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steve2
Good points joe. Cheating is cheating and realizing one's spouse may not have been interested in the first place would be so hard to bear. Mind you, if she is bisexual, she may well have been attracted to him. But still you make a good point.
Her husband's going to need lots of support too. Without minmizing his pain, it would be fair to assume the JWs will rally to his side (as indeed the OP subsequently confirmed). She'll be ostracized - so she must have given this matter lots of thought.
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NVR2L8
Their sex life must have been miserable...I used to be friends with a very spiritual JW couple special pioneer and all...he thought getting married would curb his wanting for men...newly married the wife said they would have sex once a month if that while it was once a day at least for my new bride and I...for the first few months any way. They had 3 kids so I know there's 3 nights when he didn't have a headache. Today she's remarried and happy. That's what happens when sexual compatibility can only be tested after marriage. -
DesirousOfChange
I'd tell my wife "I just wanna watch".
Not a Rolex like Sam Herd either.
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