After years of abuse and many dramatic committee sessions and shortly after my desperate-to-become-an-elder husband had left, I came across an extensive psychological evaluation that basically said my husband utilized regression and projection as tools, had a lie scale of 70% according to MMPI, exhibited a lot of behavior that was in the pathological range and didn't have a clue as to what he was about. Thinking this information might help the elders to see what I was dealing with according to professionals (I couldn't put names to it all but I knew he was crazy), I cornered the PO in the back of the hall and asked him if he would read the report to gain additional understanding of my marital problems.
The elder glanced around then asked me,
"Sister ****, did your husband give you permission to show me that?"
Now what the hell did he think, I'd barely discovered it myself from my husband's usually locked-tight office just before he'd left. He wouldn't even glance at the material. They'd often said in committee that they were unable to do anything because my husband denied everything or sometimes said I was the one who hit him and that it was my word against his and yet the PO wouldn't even hazard a glance.
That was the last straw for me. I checked out.