Bill,
I think you should bring your lawyer, and alert the media of the event..
Don't tell them about it, and when you show up, they'll have to state that your lawyer or witnesses and recording devices are NOT allowed in this meeting.. (Have it recorded by the media).. Of course, then the lawyer can tell them that you do have the right to representation, and they will refuse the meeting..
They will probably DF after that, since you didn't 'adhere' to their requirements.. But, then you will have documented facts that
A.) Your civil rights were being violated by bringing your lawyer, and them telling you that he was not welcome
B.) The media will have a field day with the fact that they declined the media being there.. That will be all over every national and international news program and news paper from here to Russia!
Gotta love it!!! Just ignore their request, go anyway with your lawyer and media, and have some fun.. !!!! You're gonna be DF'd anyway for non-scriptural reasons.. Might as well expose them..
But, I have a feeling you don't need any advise!!! You seem to be doing quite fine without anyone's help!!!
BRAVO!!! Once again I applaud and admire your fortitude and resolve in protecting the children!!!!!