by haujobbz 21 Replies latest jw friends
Spidermonkey,
How can you say humans are perfect? What about children who are born deformed or diseased? Did they get a chance to 'act perfect'? The very fact that they have no control over such things such as genetics is in itself an aspect of human imperfection.
Edited by - professor on 3 August 2002 4:30:23
haujobbz, walk tall and carry a big stick. I've come from the abuse class big time, so I know where your coming from.
Even though I give people the benefit of the doubt, more often than not, I don't trust them. Is this a contradiction? No. Experience. People don't know who the hell they really are or what they want. Personal application of life has given me experience to trust myself. When I say something, you can take it to the bank. People in my community know me as such. I don't have time to dilly-dally because I can't afford it. There is a time and place for everything. When it's time for business it's business, when it's time for fun, it's fun time.
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Trust is a two way street, I have several friends and my two best friends I have had for nearly 20 years, We have alway had openess in our friendships. I could say the one friends is up and down as she has had many difficulties with her three grown children this makes her prone to mood swings and when this happens I keep my distance as she can say mean things, but I know she does,nt mean to its her way.When she feels better she is fine, but she needs her space to deal with her problems. Where as my other friend I will call her my kindred spirit, we should have been sisters, we have a beautiful friendship andI know I could trust her 100 percent with my very live and vice versa. In fact in all the years we have been friends never have we spoken an unkind word to one another, we speak our feelings and share our innermost thoughts and we laugh and cry together. We enjoy live together.
So please don't think you can't trust anyone anymore that is synical, and I know you have been hurt, but all in all people are not like that, we need one another to exist. Compainship is paramount to life as is water is to exist. Give it another go, you'll see what I mean. Trust me. It won't hurt a bit.
OFC.
I fully and completely trust my best bud OFC. I consider her my sister that I never had. She is a person one can count on for everything. She was there when I needed her the most, and I will always be thankful for that.
However, I trust she will not beat my butt at bagammon next time we play.
If there was a time when you need someone the most, she is the one to go to.
I can usually pick out persons who I cannot trust easily, never used to be able to, but when people treat you like crap, you learn quickly. But there is still some out there who you can really trust.
Trust in yourself, to know who they are.
I am blushing Bigfloppydog, you bring the best out in me, thanks.
And watch out I coming after you to win backgammom next chipmunk breathe.
No just kidding, love you kiddo.
Orangefatcat.!!
HUMMMMM. Sometimes the only reason I'm "trusting" of others is because I KNOW MYSELF to be trustworthy, and I have to take a risk regarding them as I would want/need someone to take a risk regarding me. Then, too, sometimes things do/will happen depending upon our expectations.
I've had too look long and hard at myself. And that was the scary part. Actually the older I get, the more I understand how humans do not always "hear" nor "see" what is right in front of us - thus any can be prone to jump to conclusions about another's motive. When MAYBE the truth of that person was obvious the whole time.
As for individuals who use and abuse others for sake of just that...I'm not responsible for them. And yes, there have been times when I suffered greatly over what I considered betrayel from "a loved one." That's the way it goes sometimes. It helped make me a better person in the end because I chose not to be like others I see.
It's as simple sometimes as "live and let live." I can still get pissed about harms done me in the past, but I'd rather take it as a learning lesson and move on. Maybe I'm speaking at of turn here, but what helps me is doing volunteer work. Ya know, instead of looking to get whatever I think I need, I "get", by giving. And I volunteer at a Christian based community center which helps me learn tolerance because I'm very anti-christianity. Life is just to grand...and full of paradox.
Stay strong
Granny
I understand why you feel distrustful of others and yourself. I recall how the Watchtower implanted that distrust in us all ... don't trust the world, don't trust JW frriends who are not performing to Society standards, and don't even trust ourselves, because we are imperfect sinners that can muck it all up at any time. Yes, this is the eternal lifetime message of the Watchtower. The only thing the Watchtower ever wanted us to trust is them. This is one reason why I am no longer with them. There is much more positive to life than living in the Watchtowr-world of constant distrust.
Edited by - Amazing on 3 August 2002 10:48:15
i dont even trust myself sometimes.
There's the root of the problem. You're not trustworthy, and you know it. Would you like this situation to change? Wonder how it could be accomplished?
I dont either.... for the most part---people SUCK!!!
aw spice i hate to hear you talk this way. most people don't suck - just the things they do sometimes. p.s. when i say i hate to hear you talk that way, it's because it tells me you're not in a good place right now. wanna talk about it?
I trust my husband.......absolutely
