by Celtic 25 Replies latest jw friends
Oh..how stupid am I........Here is my e-mail YIKES.....the one on the post above is wrong!!!
It is............. [email protected] I forgot the (s) before,,,,sorry! Oh, and I am a female, married w/ 2 little ones. I don't want you to think that I am some perverted man in America who wants you to visit.
Love, DJ aka Donna (((((hugs))))))
I've been in similar situations so can sympathise with how painful it can be.
Please don't give up ... it does get easier over time.
Last week, the JW parents of this young lady, burn't all of her baby and young childhood pictures right in front of her, telling her further that she was now considered completely cut off from her natural family. This obviously distruaght her very much, extremely distressed she was. So much so, that over the weekend, this individual tried to commit suicide by slashing her wrists. Found in time by her 'adoptive worldly mother', apparently she is ok, but obviously in need of a great deal of support and encouragement right now. This is where you come in.
I cannot believe these INHUMAN CRUEL "PARENTS".
They have obviously been BRAINWASHED BEYOND REPAIR by the Watchtower Society.
I am so sorry about your situation.
Here are a few Scriptures that I thought might help to show that God is nothing like the Watchtower Society:
Does anyone see the Watchtower Society teaching this, or doing this?
Matthew 7:12: Therefore whatever you desire for men to do to you, you shall also do to them; for this is the Law and the Prophets.
Would your "Parents" want you to treat them like they are treating you?
You are VERY MUCH LOVED BY GOD and By all of us on this Board!
Edited by - UnDisfellowshipped on 23 September 2002 17:57:13
Having lived it myself, I honestly don't know which comes first: Cold, cruel, selfish, unfeeling, heartless, incompetent and horrible parents or the Watchtower world that creates and/or encourages them or 'lures' and deceives them into their behavior.
No matter.
You can survive them both.
One day, when you're feeling up to it, share your favorite pictures with us.
Tell us all about them. All the details.
We will listen and enjoy them and share your love for them more than they EVER could. And they will live in your heart and ours forever when you tell us about them. And no one can ever destroy that..
They never deserved to have them. Or you.
But God made you. Not your parents. And He meant for you to be here.
In their lives, you were but a beautiful blessing that they squandered in the twink of an eye. They will have to answer for that one day.
Already you have touched my heart. And already you have lifted my spirits to know that I was not alone. You're not either.
And neither of us are destined to be YET ANOTHER JW suicide.
Life is too rich.
And, for them, all the walls are falling down.
Dear Mark,
For some reason, I did not see this post, and your cry for help. I hesitate to even say this, but having read your update post about ChantelIe this morning, I believe that she had fully made her decision. Her first attempt was unsuccessful, so she planned again.
Once that decision is made, there is little, if anything, we can do to help, unless we lock them away in an institution and drug them. Adele, being the loving individual as you have expressed herein, wanted to try it the loving way. The great sadness is, that one way or another, they will fulfil that decision.
Her parents bear a grevious responsibility for what they did to her. They cut the life right out of her heart. What they did was abuse of the worse kind. Did they do this to get her to come back, or did they do it out of anger because they were humiliated by her actions as a youth?
When I decided to leave the JW's firmly as an adult, in 1981, my mother convinced my father to sell everything they owned and move south to Florida. And so they did. I took my son to the house on the day of the sale, and everything was sold. I kept hearing strangers say, "this must be an estate sale. Someone must have died.". They were selling our stuff from childhood, or throwing it out on the trash. I confronted my mother down in the basement about a box of family pictures discarded, and all she said was "you have made your decision", and now I am making mine. I am starting over. And that was that! My son was very upset by all of this, and he couldn't understand how they could do this to their children and grandchildren. But, at the time, we were just "dead" to mom, and she was trying to "pretend" that we didn't exist anymore. No doubt she was mentally ill. Dad just went along with her as usual.
I gathered up those pictures (which I'm certain not even dad knew she had put out back for garbage) and made a beautiful album with lots of them. I sent it to them as a gift later on. They both seemed to appreciate my gesture, but since dad died, it remains with my mother right now, and in her present frame of mind, it will no doubt go in the trash, unless someone in the family can retrieve it. Our family history in pictures, which means so much to me and my sibblings.
Parents just have no clue sometimes. They are seriously lacking parental skills even before becoming envolved in JW's, and then the borg compounds it. The borg empowers them all the more.
Again, I am aching inside, to know we have lost a little one. A bright light waiting to shine, has now been extinquished forever.
Love,
Karen
I confronted my mother down in the basement about a box of family pictures discarded, and all she said was "you have made your decision", and now I am making mine. I am starting over. And that was that!
My mother took my graduation picture off the wall and handed me my baby book also. Why is it that dubs think that by simply disgarding pictures that it is easier to disgard family?
