@Torn, thanks for that - also you have to think that maybe the illness excuses are really not subconscious but just deliberately trying to get a'loose for a respite from the baloney, without getting disapproval and being called Bad Examples and lectured for Stumbling the Friends.
One time the kh was vandalized and burned inside because some young guy who was studying with one of the elders, got mad for some reason and broke in and set a fire. All the whole insides had to be re-carpeted, painted, everything.
Well this one brother said he could not be exposed to all the chemical smells, and would thereafter be calling in to the meetings. At the WT study the conductor would unfold a paper and read a comment phoned in ahead of time by this allergic brother. By the time I left several years later, that brother had never darkened the door again! Maybe he was enjoying that remote meeting attendance.
Marina