How many times in front of a committee?? (page 2)

refiners fire

Maxwell. I suppose I meant to restrict the criteria to going in front of a commitee because you were a bad boy. But I think going as a witness to someone elses sins counts too.When I was called to tstify regarding the infamous "mitta mitta river canoe trip" it was to explain why David Stonehouse spent so much of the time NAKED.And why photographs were taken of his nakedness, and by whom.

Breeze, please, do you HAVE to do that?? It is very......"disturbing" Lol

Edited by - refiners fire on 15 November 2002 17:47:23

JeffT

Once, a few years before we left. We went back to a wedding at our old congregation and I got absolutely hammered at the reception. Booze had been flowing freely and stopped too late. Little A$$hole elder told the elders at the new congregation all about it. I got off with private reproof. To tell the truth, I did feel like I'd made a fool of myself, I didn't the elders to tell me I'd had too much.

pettygrudger

Just once at 16 - I was repentent & got df'd anyways for fornication with my fiancee - although it was unwilling fornication, they still considered me a willing participant since I hadn't come to them!

refiners fire

petty.

..."although it was unwilling fornication"....

How is that possible? Just curious. If you dont care to elaborate, tell me to bugger off, its cool.

Mum

Only once. They wanted me to "confess to adultery" so that my JW husband, from whom I was separated, would be "free to remarry." My female intuition told me that his prospective marriage partner would dump him within a short period of time because just wanted the house for her son and his new wife. My (now) ex and his girlfriend did a pretty good job of screwing around with me and did convince a judge to award my ex all of the marital property.

I went back to court and was awarded my half of the marital property, which wasn't much anyway.

So -- oh, yes -- the committee meeting: Well, one of the brothers was very kind to me, and I have never forgotten that. The others were total jerks. It was that meeting that set me free once and for all from any notion that these people had any connection with God, with morality and decency, or anything good. They showed their true colors. I had taken a tranquilizer before the meeting so I would remain calm. After the meeting, I felt very peaceful and looked forward to the rest of my life because I knew I was free.

They kept trying to meet with me again, but I refused. My ex got his divorce on grounds of "cruel and inhuman treatment" because those were the days before no-fault divorce. He didn't get to marry his ugly, scrawny girlfriend anyway because she split up with him as soon as the judge awarded me half of the community property.

Justice. You gotta love it!

refiners fire

Hey mum!!

.."the committee meeting: Well, one of the brothers was very kind to me, and I have never forgotten that. The others were total jerks"...

Now this sets off a thought. Indeed it does.Cause some of the commitees I was in, same thing. 2 harsher more questioning guys and 1 "good" guy being very supportive. When I was DF one of the commitee took my side and was sympathetic.

Now when I went for interview to join the cops, way back when, they set up a "hot" interview. With one of the three people on the board being very unfriendly,the other two ambivalent. The "good cop/Bad cop" routine.Undeniably a tactic. Is the same happening here? Is this a prearranged tactic by the org,??

pettygrudger

In todays terms its called "date rape", however the a**hole had the nerve to brag of his conquest to a friend. I truly thought that I had somehow caused it. So I was repentent. But I was df'd anyways, because I didn't tell the Elders, so they saw that as a sign of consent. I was only 15 when I got engaged, so I was pretty naive & guilable.

pettygrudger

On a side note, due to alot of sexual abuse I had suffered for a long time, praying for god to save me, I now kinda think that perhaps he did. If they had not df'd me - I'd probably still be there.

God does work in mysterious ways.

AGuest

Before "the end"... fourteen: 7 "fact finding", 7 "official." Said they "couldn't figure out what to do with" me, as everything I told them, I was also able to show them... in the Bible.

Peace!

SJ, a slave of Christ

breeze

Refiners Fire...

Yes I was re-instated after a little over a year, 1964. They really struggled with my DF'ing for some reason, my Dda was an elder at the time and he still hasn't made it clear why the final decision was to DF me? Two congregations were involved and the District Overseer had met with all of us several times.

My little gif is very attention getting isn't it? Bump / grind.....over and over...

I have a hard time with the fact that a twelve year old was brought into a judicial setting with multiple elders?

That is just too much to handle?

BREEZE

How many times in front of a committee??

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