The People and the Dream

joelbear

I miss my friends. I love them. I have attachments to them. Being separated from them hurts bad.

I miss the dream. I miss the dream of a new earth where mankind is united in peace.

This is the way I look at it. We really don't know what the future holds for us. Who's to say that one day we wont have another chance to be with them. Maybe this life is just getting us ready for the next one, helping us to learn what's really important in life.

Another thought that I consider. When I think of my j.w. family, I have to remember that I'm not the only one hurting. I know they miss me too. I know they hurt too. They really think what they are doing is the right thing and I feel bad for them. No one wins in this situation. I miss my sisters and brothers everyday, but what helped me was to let go of the anger. I felt that under all that pain, was anger. I saw my two sisters recently when I was at my brothers helping him clean up after the tornado that hit his home. In the past, I wouldn't speak because I knew they wouldn't speak. I didn't do that this time. When I saw them, I walked up to them and hugged them with all my might. I realized that I wouldn't see them after that unless there was another family crisis, but I still didn't let it chance who I was. If they choose not to have me in their life, then that's up to them. When I see them, I'm not going to act any diffenent than I ever do when I see someone I love.

Will you email me your phone number so I can call you?

Tink

BadJerry

Wish I wasn't such a male about these things, but here goes anyway...

Last things first - don't give up on the dream. Throughout history there's been flickers of light that a peaceful clean and loving world can be had by all of us. Its a dream that isn't the exclusive property of any one religion or cult but the dream that resides in ALL of us. Its just that many have, through fear and despair, lost sight of it. Don't lose sight of it. It's really YOUR dream.

On the first, I too struggle with friendship. I'm luckily married to my friend. Were those at the hall really your friends? I don't know about you, but I've pretty much dismissed them as not! And where are new friends? Everywhere, and many are waiting to talk and listen (just like here).

So what are you looking for? Email me if you need someone to communicate with. Will it become a friendship? Who knows..your move! By the way, I love chess.

SYN

It's a dream that comes at a price, and you know that price all too well Joelbear.

At least a dream has a chance of fulfillment. The Tower's version of future history will happen immediately after the porcine aviators wing their way out of the frozen depths of Hell, so to speak. So, the Tower's future history is reduced from a piece of highly irrational sci-fi to a mere ludicrous fantasy.

Sucks, doesn't it? But, such is reality.

Take care man...

Robdar

I miss my friends. I love them. I have attachments to them. Being separated from them hurts bad.
I miss the dream. I miss the dream of a new earth where mankind is united in peace

(((((((Joel)))))))

So do I, Luv. So do I.

dsgal

Yeah,dreams are nice but sometimes we have to face reality.

Joyzabel

hey (((Joelbear)))

I agree with Tink: "We really don't know what the future holds for us".

The dream that we once had made us put our lives on hold, not living until that dream came true. I believe in living our lifes to the fullest everyday, not putting anything on hold anymore.

Please look around you and appreciate what life you do have and enjoy the simple things in life. They add up to very powerful moments we enjoy with the friends we have now. It doesn't make the hurt of family rejecting you any easier, but at least you can see life for what it is, about love and not rejection.

Hugs,

j2bf

blondie

Joel,

I feel a Loretta moment coming on:

Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today is a gift. That's why it's called 'the present'. (Loretta LaRoche)

Today is all we really have to live in.

Blondie (who lost too many todays worrying about tomorrow)

NameWithheld

It's a Matrix moment for sure. The ultimate question - who's happier, the person with their heads planted firmly up their butt, ignoring reality and living a dream? Or the person who sees life for what it is, with all the warts and all.

The sad part of living the dream is that while it's nice to think that sky-daddy's going to come down and fix all your problems 'any day now' - the net result is your life ends up being really sh*tty since you never proactivly try and solve your own problems. So you end up 70 years old, working as a greeter in WalMart still "waiting on Jehovah"

Mulan

I felt the same way as you a few years ago. It was terrible for me, and for my family to be around me. I was so angry and depressed. So, I do understand.

This is what I did. I am a BIG believer in dreams. Create a dream for yourself, that is attainable, and GO FOR IT!!

One dream failed you, so get another one!! Have many dreams!! (some people call them goals)

And............."don't let anyone steal your dreams".

Almost forgot............I made lots of new friends. Many found here.

Edited by - mulan on 21 November 2002 11:37:48