Can we really fade away for good

JH

I was wondering how long an inactive witness can stop going to meetings before the elders can disfellowship the person? Some are saying that the elders will visit inactive ones in jan,feb,march. Is there a strategy up their sleeve?

freedom96

I would imagine you could go on for awhile, unless they knew something specific to nail us on. They have not contacted me, and though I have moved several times, and several phone changes over the last 8 years, I am still in the vicinity. In fact, I pass the hall every day.

They really would not be able to find me at home unless someone told them. Be interesting to see what happens.

Scully

JH:

There was a post recently that said something to the effect that elders were instructed to track down anyone that had been inactive for up to 30 (THIRTY!!) (TRENTE!!) years and pay them a "shepherding visit". I think this was at the last elder's school (mid-November).

Love, Scully

JH

Scully,

I had no visits from elders since 10 years, since I am inactive. They only come once a year before the memorial, as an invitation. I guess if they came over, I would play the game and go to a couple of meetings, and then slip away for another 10 years.

Edited by - jh on 11 December 2002 20:19:17

shera

It ticks me off,that the elders "think" they still have control over us,in their minds,that is.If they ever come to my door,I'm going to tell them with "tact".To get out of my life.

Do they make visits to DA persons?

kelsey007

After so many years of being away- inactive- and you are coming to ex-jw sites? Naw you havent faded away by along shot. It still plagues you. You cant get jw's out of your mind. It has nothing to do with the elders at all. It is all about what is in you.

As I wrote elsewhere I am thankful that I woke up one day and decided that quitting the meetings was getting away from lies- but hiding from a possible man- made label was yet another lie. And living the 2nd lie was just about as bad as living with the first. So I came clean and spoke out- left no room for doubt in the elders minds and let the chips fall where they will.

Life is so much better now. Elders never, never visit my house!

JH

I am inactive since 10 years as I said, but when i started fading away, I went about 20 times a year, down to 3 or 4 times a year last year. Everybody has thier own way of fading. I had no trouble this way. Didn't go once in 2002.

Edited by - jh on 11 December 2002 20:48:46

startingover

I asked my elder father about the jw-media.org statement that a person can leave without being shunned. He told me that's what I have done. Then he told me about the special effort to visit those not coming anymore set for early next year. I told him I felt I had left but I felt that leaving means they no longer have any control over me, and at what point are records of me destroyed so they won't be drug out when the CO comes around. He told me to write a letter stating I no longer wanted to be a part of the organization. I told him if I did that I would be shunned. He agreed. So I told him I wanted to take advantage of the leaving without shunning deal. After going round and round, it's obvious that it's a downright lie (using the same words they use to describe anything an apostate says). There is no way to leave if they want to pursue you.

nakedmvistar

Why fade away??? why not formally leave the org??? Or is it that are you covering your ass just in case you decide to go back in the future. ?????!

Golden Girl

I have seen people do that when they have family or friends that are JW's. They do it so they can keep talking to them.

Are you the only one that is a JW ?.

If you are the only one..You must have some kind of reservations about leaving the religion. Maybe going to some of the websites that post questions and answers on JW beliefs or reading the Crisis of Conscience book may help you.

If you have family or friends in the religion..I can understand your reluctance. But don't you get tired of living a lie?..I guess in some cases it might be worth it.

But nobody can tell you what to do! You have to decide for yourself..

Snoozy...

Can we really fade away for good

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