Where do I go for support??? (page 2)

Country Girl

Scared Yet Resolved:

I have been out 20 years after having been raised in it from 3-20 years old. I never baptized, so I don't face the loss of family members from shunning. I also only have my Mom and brother in it. I consider myself quite lucky that way. However, as you will know, it's still hard whether you've been in 1 year or 40.. it always puts a burden on our shoulders and minds. It will get easier, I believe! This has been the experience of many.

Everything seems so strange and new now. Enjoy it, even though it might make you feel uncomfortable, and eventually life on the outside will become a lot easier. Just remember to take baby steps at first, and then if you feel your strength building up and confidence reeling, begin to take by leaps and bounds. But do remember to be special to YOU and your kids and family! Take time to really think about things and make confident choices for you and yours.

Country Girl

Joyzabel

Welcome to the board, Scaredyetresolved!

You are getting some good advice alreay. What you need to learn is to trust your own instincts and do what you feel like doing. One step at a time.

I can tell you it will take time. But hey, we are in no hurry now that there is no date to serve for or worry about. In March of 2001 is when the house of cards started falling for me and the slow fade is what I have been doing ever since, for the sake of preparing my parents, siblings, in-laws, for our "weakness". There is no "honorable" way to leave a high control group, so do it on your terms and how you want to do things. It takes a lot of courage but you have shown that already by reading what you have and learning what you have and now wanting to get on with your life.

This place was great for me in finding support. I couldn't talk to the local friends about what I was learning and how I was changing, so the people I met here listened, sympathized and gave some excellent choices in reading material that helped me with my journey.

The best part is that our youngest son thanks us almost everyday that we are now free of a high control group. What friends he had at the KH were rejecting of him (by their parents urging, I'm sure) and now he is free to find friends that are not judgemental and do things he likes to do.

There are some excellent threads here, if you take the time to find them. Besides the experiences, I recommend reading whatever you can to help your thinking. I'm enjoying this thread http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.aspx?id=42510&site=3. and would like to add to the list, just haven't taken the time. My e-mail is open if you want a list of books I recommend to anyone leaving that I found helpful.

Glad you and your hubby have opened your eyes, just be patient, time has a way of healing, helping and letting us get on with our lifes.

Hugs,

j2bf

Shutterbug

Welcome,

You have already received advice from some of the best posters on this board, Cruzanheart, fire dragon,and yerusalyim just to name a few. Two of the three live in Texas and if you do also you could probably get some more personal support. But if not, there is plenty of support on this board and all you need to do to get answers is to ask the questions. Right now you are feeling the same emotions that many of us have felt and as you know this can be rather rough. However, you seem to have thought things thru so you have taken the first big step on your journey.

JT

First, take a step back and take a deep breath. Relax, this is the beginning of although bumpy, a valuable journey.

sweeter words could not have been spoken, but the journey IS WELL WORTH IT

JT

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mouthy

(((((((hug))) Welcome scaredyetresolved. I am Granny on the link.... 75 years old. Hoorah for you to make your escape while the kids are young.Your doing THEM a huge favor. I pushed my kids into the Borg when they were young- One is still there ( shuns me ) Once you get the WT teaching out of your head. It is real LIVING!!!! I was in it over 20 yrs ( 25 if you consider the time of studing before I got dunked. )I would have died for the Borg. Nearly did! when they gave me the left foot of fellowship Cos I dont believe Jesus came invisibly in 1914. I wanted to kill myself.I thought I was alone.Let me tell you.The family I have on this board has shown me more UNconditional love I have EVER experienced.Hang in there celebrate the holidays if you can. Christ said "IT IS FINISHED" what did he mean??/ Well in John He tells us the work of God is to believe in the one he sent JESUS.That is the work......Not by the works of the watchtower because that is works of flesh. This is the first day for the rest of your LIVING!!!! MORE abundantly...

If I can help in any way at all. e-mail me ask anything about me at all.Or listen to my testimony at . http://www.jwinfoline.com/Page/audio.htm

http://www.jwinfoline.com/Page/audio.htm Pettygrudger thanks you so much for your lovely card

You made my day today (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))))))))))

LovesDubs

The organization is nothing, if they arent a lot of hot air darlin...they cant hurt you. They have no power over you or your family, nor does God listen to their opinions regarding your "acceptability" in His eyes. I think you will find that talking to God is a lot EASIER without the Watchtower lording it over your every move and thought, and your children will THANK you for this. Giving my kids a normal life after my being in the Borg for 13 years was like watering a withering plant and watching it BLOOM! This is a scary time for you, but keep on reading, keep on talking to us out here...there are MILLIONS of EXJWs out here by the way...and we ALL went through this...and keep explaining in kid terms, what you are finding, how you are feeling to your little ones. They understand more than we give them credit for. There may be some future shunning from your JW friends and family, but you cant let your emotional attachment stifle the rest of your lives together. You only have ONE life...and God wants you to live it, not wait around for some greyish, unclear, speculative paradise in the next one :) ( I mean think about that...a THOUSAND YEARS with only not-yet-perfect JWs under the watchful eye of the ELDERS?? cripes..thats not paradise, thats HELL in my opinion LOL!)

Let us know when you are ready to do Christmas and we will help you get started. We have a gift exchange here, set up by one of our loving sisters, and it gives all your newbies a jump start in the gift giving department when you get something from your Secret Online Santa (SOS!)

Our love goes out to you and your family, write to me too...any time!

Dawn, S. Fla.

JeffT

Congratulations on taking the first steps toward your new life. The fact that the two of you are going out together is a big plus. My wife and I left together in 1989. At that time there was a support group for ex-witnesses operationg here in the Seattle area. I don't know if that one is still here, but I know there are some others here and there. Certainly you will get a lot of love, support and help from all of us here. My e-mail is open if you want to contact me, I have some info already written up if you want it. Your children will be fine. They won't have to explain to their friends at school why they can't go to birthday parties etc. Be open and honest with them about why things are changing.

JT

hey, we are in no hurry now that there is no date to serve for or worry about.

TOO funny

JT

I am Granny on the link.... 75 years old

NO WAY YOU ARE LYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Smile

Hey this is great- I love it -

Grandma you are a welcome with your insight

Where do I go for support???

Welcome to the board, Scaredyetresolved!

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