How Do You Measure Your Self Worth? (page 3)

minimus

Larc, I totally agree with you (again). Many of these types of threads are for the benefit of persons that wonder whether they are the only ones that feel the way they do. There's a lot of people that are confused and demoralized because they left the protective cover of this religion. .....So, minimus questions do serve a purpose, for those that don't always see where I'm coming from.

larc

Minimus, I think what you are doing here serves a very good purpose. You are right. There are many who are beat down and need to talk about this. In my comments, I hope that they see that there is a different way for folks to view themselves and their place in this world. I agree with Skeptic that some people have an external locus of control. That way of thinking was certainly fostered in the religion. I also agree with him that looking internally is more beneficial, though hard to do when coming from the JW culture.

Guest 77

I do things naturally and instinctively. I will adjust according to the circumstance. I respect the views and opinions of others. As I say in my golf book, 'it takes no brains, no talent and no character to criticize'.

Guest 77

Windchaser

I measure my self-worth by what Czar said, how I treat other people. I also measure it by how many people contact me to request a dish cloth. Minimus, I am waiting...

mouthy

Well as a Jehovahs Witness I was someone!!!!! NOT! but now as an "apostate" I have 60 cards all around my room telling me how "worth while" I am- I feel a little guilty at that -cos I am not really as great a person as all these cards say... But as I always say I am like a cat purrrr..And some of the cards are from EX ELDERS!!!!!!Imagine getting praise from a man!!!!!! Oh I like it!!!! Eat your heart out Bethel.....( I know you peek in here)

expatbrit

Mouthy even had the worth to get a card thrown at her by Glen Howe....lolol

Expatbrit

rocketman

When heavily into dubdom, I measured my self-worth to a great degree by my performance in the congregation. To be accepted by the elders and approved of by them meant so much to me, and when I became one, the performance of my duties became a measuring stick for my self-worth.

That all came crashing to a halt, and since then I've determined that never again will I look to that means of determining my self-worth.

I like blondie's intial crack about the number of posts determining her self-worth. Good one kid!

minimus

Windchaser, tell me about dem cloths , will ya?.......Blondie always hits the nail on the head. That's why she's an ex-eldress....in my book.

Skeptic

I agree with Skeptic that some people have an external locus of control. That way of thinking was certainly fostered in the religion. I also agree with him that looking internally is more beneficial, though hard to do when coming from the JW culture.

Yes, the religion strongly encourages external locus. It also trys to severely undermine ones self-esteem.

Richard

Windchaser

Minimus, I am sending home-made crocheted dish cloths to all who request them. It is my way of saying that I appreciate everyone of you. It takes me about two hours to make one.

If you e-mail me with a mailing address and a color choice, I will send you one within the next few weeks. I don't expect anything in return. Just doing it makes me feel good.

Although I am telling you here now, Minimus (who is one of my very favorite posters), this invitation is for anyone who would like a dish cloth. hehe

I really do care about all of you, even if no one noticed that I am now of the Jedi class.

Love,

Dottie

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