Board wars :(

by LyinEyes 27 Replies latest jw friends

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  Simon

  Well, that's not how it happens. Sure, people can believe what they want and I'm sure that some will try their damdest to promote the misconception that this is how it is as they seem to try and pick up on every little thing like that.

  First off, I very rarely delete people's posts - I prefer to leave the evidence there for people to see. The only times posts have been removed wholesale is when people have had problems with being identified and I've tried to help them out or if they have simply been spamming or posting porn.

  Again, whether it has any credence really depends on who is saying it and why. I would not be surprised if it wasn;t the same old people doing the same old stuff. They may be deleting their posts ... but it may be because of other reasons such as them containing damning information that they now want to remove so as to portray things in a different light. I don't know 'cause I don't know who or what posts you are refering to and frankly, neither do I care.

  To be honest, I try and run the forum without worrying about what people think ... I just try to do what I feel is right. Take it or leave it. This doesn't mean that I don't care what people think of the site but I do not do anything (or 'not' do anything) just to be popular. Perhaps that is why some have so much 'vitriol' for me? ... because I didn't show them as much respect as they thought they deserved and didn't allow them free reign as they wanted.
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  refiners fire

  ..."A recent example is Imbue's comments that teejay has pointed out".....

  Imbue didnt address me for months, then when I posted that thread about my wife being sick she posted me a "sympathy' post in the thread. I nearly puked with revulsion.
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  DannyBear

  Simon,

  ***Perhaps that is why some have so much 'vitriol' for me? ... because I didn't show them as much respect as they thought they deserved and didn't allow them free reign as they wanted.***

  'Perhaps'......is way to kind of an expression. It is obvious from the constant rile about your decision's, that these disgruntled ones, just don't get it. They continue to moan and groan, like children who are ignored.

  Sometimes it takes a firm 'go to your room', until you can act like a civil human, before being allowed back in the living room.

  Cheers to your resolve!

  Danny
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  CoonDawg

  Well, I know I'm not tremendously active here, but I do enjoy certain things about this board that no others have. Especially when it comes to the different sorts of people. I visit 3 other boards as well as this one. One of these, I have only discovered today. I go to each of these looking for what I need for that particular day and leaving what I can give to others. I really don't give any consideration to what others think of me posting on multiple boards. I have met quality people at all of them, and I have met some real A-holes too. Guess I just figure that if I don't care that my JW wife knows that I even visit and post at these boards, I sure as hell ain't gonna worry about someone I don't have to sleep in the same bed with and what they may think of me.

  JMO

  Coon
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  Debz

  if you have a problem here with something done here or someone here don't you think it should be addressed here?

  Thats what I think..and as this board `war` seems to have started way before my time I really can`t be bothered with the hassle....I`m here to purely to give my opinions - whether they be viewed as right or wrong - in order to assist others and if they help thats fine by me. The only time I believe Simon should, or needs to, intervene is when `offensive` personal attacks are made and I have observed that these have not been limited to `board war attacks` some have been personal attacks aimed at personal relationships, these I viewed when a newbie to the board - its not necessary to post this type of innuendo and slander on this type of board and is hardly productive in the long run....But at the same time I think that due to the nature of the written form a right of reply can be made to clear up any misunderstandings that may have been made by reading things the wrong way!
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  WildHorses

  Lyin,

  I know how you feel. There are people I like on each of the forums and I try my best to stay out of the arguments at each of them. It seems if I say anything, I end up hurting someones feelings and I do not like doing so. It seems if/when I do, that someone takes it as me taking sides. I do not take anyones side but mine.

  It all matters at how each individual looks at a situation. What may seem wrong to some, is not to others and who are we to judge?

  I wish it were as the old days here on the forum. We were as one big happy family. But people say things, feelings get hurt and sometimes people have a hard time forgiving and moving on. Such is life I guess. At least I still know where to find everyone, and therefore, still have the best of both worlds.

  I love you all. AND DON'T YOU FORGET IT!!!!
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  whyhideit

  I have read a little from several of the boards, and some a little more. In my own personal opinion, most boards seem to be centered around this one in some weird way. Something bad happens here, and they run there to talk about it. Someone dislikes someone here, they run there to discuss and defame the person involved. Someone gets their hand slapped for breaking a small rule, and they run there to blow the thing up a million fold and recruit friends to believe them and side with them. In the end, it is just like the Kingdom Hall and it smells just as bad. Of course, far be it for me to take away anyones God-given-right to be an ass. As my friends know, I use that right a few times myself. I only wonder and find it interesting, that we cannot seem to have something upset us, or cannot be upset with someone, without going somewhere else to find people that agree with us and celebrate our anger in some self-gratifying stuper. Once or twice is fine, no one is perfect, but when it is the same person over and over and over (you get the idea). Why don't we just let them be and not add those "I agree" post and "I've seen it too," comments. People online are not stupid, we see what people are and we see what people act like. When you return another persons insult or anger with the same insult and anger. Well it's like trying to clean the child in the mud, by jumping in and playing in the mud with them. Just makes no sense. In addition, I agree strongly with the advice of "if it was started here, discuss it here and finish it here." It really does hurt to be talked about behind your back, and anyone who does so is finding pleasure in another's pain.

  I will not condemn you for what you did yesterday, if you do it right today ~ Sheldon S. Maye

  Edited by - whyhideit on 30 December 2002 0:37:5
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  pettygrudger

  Lilacs - I'm with you. I like people on all the forums - to the point that I really have to start considering how much time I spend on these db's!!! What I've never liked are comments that because I post regularly on "other" boards - this means I'm a "type" of person (and negative one at that). It was only a matter of time before some "breaking" off had to happen - and I think that's a good thing. I also think all forums that I visit have a particular "flavor" to them, and I like the difference in styles. I think its important and can make for more well rounded individuals.

  I'm sure there will be a "peace" and leveling off, and I hope that day is soon.

  Something bad happens here, and they run there to talk about it. Someone dislikes someone here, they run there to discuss and defame the person involved. Someone gets their hand slapped for breaking a small rule, and they run there to blow the thing up a million fold and recruit friends to believe them and side with them.

  Although this statement is correct, there are also "other" elements that add to this quaqmire - There are a few long time posters here that also like to run to the "other" to stir the pot as well. They do it hidden behind "fake id's" and insult at will, knowing that they are shielded from any lack of respect that might be garnered here if they even dared breath some of the crap they spew over there. Why it all happens, and the history behind it all would take too much time on the part of any person with an actual life to get their arms around it to figure out how to solve it. I think if some of those with "issues" towards persons who have differences w/others banned here would come out of their closets, lose the fake ID's & face these problems head on, at the end of all the bloodshed of war there is the possibility of peace. I've seen it happen on a couple of occassions.