by Jesika 46 Replies latest jw friends
Jessika-
Feel free to e-mail me if you wish. I have been through so much legal crap regarding custody it is not funny. Over 20,000 in legal fees just this last year.
From what I understand, grandparents have absolutely no jurisdiction over grandkids. If you do not want to give visitation, you do not have to. Period. I know that for a fact where I live.
Other than the pain of having to deal with her, I don't think you have too much to worry about.
I am not a lawyer!
If I understand you correctly your sons grandmother is sueing for rights?
I believe that recently there have been many grandparents try these types of things like getting some control of their grandkids.
I remember a AARP article that discussed this and the bottom line is grandparents have no rights???
Of course the legal expense defending yourself can be a problem?
Jesika:
Looks like you have all the legal advice you need so I will give you a {{{{{{{{Jesika}}}}}}}}} if you need to e-mail me please do. I know how horrible it is to have your children force fed bullshit I never would let me middle sister around my kids because of that very thing. Lies, talking about us and just unbelievable stuff she was in the army reserves and wanted me to let her fly my daughter out to see her when my girl was about five. She is a nut case, and has tried to get a hold of my daughter just recently, my daughter and son both want nothing to do with her.
I understand and we are all here for you please don't let her get to you
I will try to find this article for you!!
This is a search I did for you on the AARP site dealing with grandparents rights etc...?
This is so sad Jesika. I would be murderous if I were you. No one would get near my child.
You're right to be shaking with anger. I would be, too.
She may be trying to bankrupt you....the bitch that you're mother in law is.
I wish I had something useful to say...just wanted to sympathise. Good luck.
ash
The United States Supreme Court ruled a couple of years ago that grandparents do not have any standing to bring suit to enjoin parents, unwilling parents, to provide visitation much less custody.
It would have to be proven that you are an unfit mother in order for grandparents or anyone else to challenge your custody based on your employment (former or present), sexual orientation, criminal record, etc.
A great weakness in cases where JWs are attempting to get custody from a non-JW parent is their stand on post-secondary education. If you go to the JWquotes site, you can find enough direct quotes from the JW literature to kick their balls up around their noses.
And if you need any help, just let me know. I'd be happy to pitch in.
Francois
Jessika,
In your thread "My Story" you wrote:
Married and pregnant at 17, gave birth at 18, son at 2 days old almost died, he is ok now, divorced at 20, started stripping at 20, on drugs and alcohol really bad at 21, off drugs and out of stripping by age 26--which is where I am now.
I can understand that your MIL is worried for her grandson, particularly in view of what he has gone through.
Does your MIL realise that you are now off the booze and drugs? Does she understand that you have cleaned up your life? And to what extent?
I know I'm being the devil's advocate here, but why is it so evil that she shares with her grandson some of her values and beliefs? Would it be any different if she was a Catholic, or a Muslem?
I know you haven't been able to give us the whole story, but I am sure she has feelings too, and I dare say she really loves your son, just as much as he loves her.
I hope you are able to come to some agreement, without your son getting hurt in the process.
Pris,
Just wanted to say that it might not be motivated by love. I know that in my case, that my in-laws are vapid and evil. They would do everything in their power to turn our kids against us, to make the kids hate us and love the JWs....that's just how they are.....nothing stands in the way of 'Jehovahs organization' with them.
My mother-in-law is a hateful woman to everyone, she despises everyone, is a hypocrite, and care about nothing but the 'truth'. She is a hollow shale. That woman is poison.
If Jesikas motherinlaw is anything like my motherinlaw, God help her.
I see what you're saying though. In a normal grandparent relationship, the love would probably be there.
ash
I know I'm being the devil's advocate here, but why is it so evil that she shares with her grandson some of her values and beliefs? Would it be any different if she was a Catholic, or a Muslem?
Prisca, please go re-read what she said.
