by stuckinarut2 26 Replies latest jw friends
About 2 years into my 4 year fade I hooked up with 2 mental health counselors who helped me a lot.
My super dub spouse didn't want anything to do with joint counseling so I went alone which hastened my recovery from the destructive cult.
I strongly suggest counseling, especially if you are feeling depressed.
stuckinarut2 I highly recommend a counselor or as I call mine, a therapist. You have a lot in your head and it is very hard to put all things together and self analyze. They are trained to listen and to get to know you. At first it may seem like you're getting nowhere, but the reality is the therapist is piecing together your personality. Once they get your thoughts down then starts the good part, the work towards rebuilding your life. One bit of caution though, just as people who take medication and feel good after a few days and stop taking it, the same can happen with therapy. When you think you don't need it, that's when you need it the most!
It's hard, because we have years of fear put into us. No elder is trained to analyze, just read a scripture and tell us do it! No, get the professional help necessary. And if the one therapist doesn't seem right, then don't be afraid and tell him it's not working and find another one. You do need it. Some are resilient and can take things with a grain of salt and others have a harder time. I'm one of those that have a harder time. Don't give up, it will get better. I was told that a while back and even though I still have some troubles and anxiety, it does help. And try and surround yourself with those that are positive and that truly have your best interest at heart. My coworkers and boss have been more helpful than anyone in the congregation.
Cousellor.. YES!
Avoid 'Kinway'.
Go to your doctor ask for a referral to see a Psychiatrist or for the doctors recommendation for a counsellor.
"Noli illegitimi carborundum".. (dont let the bastards grind you down)
feel free and in confidence to pm me.
Definitely get counseling if you can, or at least try and find a support group. Knowing ttatt does not mean it hurts any less when you lose your friends, it's still painful. Don't set any expectations about how long it will take to feel normal, it takes as long as it takes. Be kind to yourself.
I highly recommend meditation, it costs nothing and takes only a little time. It has been life changing for me. I sometimes have high blood pressure, 140 or more, after meditating more the last few weeks it is down to 117, probably better than meds could do.
It's worth checking any work benefits you may have - some include counselling and support services which you may be able to take advantage of at least to dip your toe in to see if it's for you.
Talking to someone definitely helps. Just telling someone things you've been through can be a weight off your shoulders.
Yes, I personally use a regular personal counselor, its good to be able to talk to someone about my struggles....and she really helps me work out an exit strategy. Don't shrug off regular counselors......you may find that they learn much about how to handle other ex-cult members as well, and will put forth a significant effort to help you, being that you represent an opportunity for their professional growth. Congrats again!
BF98
I have a contact in the states with experience dealing with high control religions. Highest qualifications possible as far as education is concerned. Pm me if interested. In today's world international communication is just a time zone consideration which is easy to work out.
-TE
goingthruthemotions
also i am prepping for maybe the enivitible divorce....once i stop going and fully reject the cult. i have already rejected it. right now i am just going thru the motions. my wife has told me she will choose the BORG over me.
i have always given her unconditional love and support...but i guess nothing like the washtowel will give.
well atleast she will get the support and unconditional love she thinks they will give her.
joining this cult was the worse mistake of my life....if i could turn back time!
Prepare for hell if your wife is Borg, ESPECIALLY if there are children involved.
Plan ahead!
This is just my 2 cents worth ,
why would you need a counsellor ?
You have broken free spiritually , you know the TTATT
, So why would you need a counsellor ?
Are you one of those people who cant make a decision on your own ?
Do you want other people to make your decisions for you ?
In the end you have to stand up for your own rights on your own two feet and face your demons., nobody else can do it for you .
smiddy
Hi Stuck, if I remember correctly you are in Melb? There is a clinical psychologist in Melb called Lily Amorous, she specializes in cults and toxic groups. I talked to her on the phone , she seems really nice, and she’s worked with exjws before. I couldn’t see her because I’m down in Tas but I got her book on cults and it’s brilliant, I wish I could go and see her. If you get a referral from your Dr the cost is covered by medicare.
I wish you all the best, Fringie
