Help she is trying to get to my son part4:) (page 3)

Buster

Sounds like good news. I hope to read some more soon.

ESTEE

((((((((((Jes!))))))))))

This is wonderful news!

Nice talking to you in chat last night, too. You have a wonderful sense of humor and seem in good spirits. . .I'm glad for ya!!!

Love,

ESTEE

truthseeker1

Awesome news Jes!!!

I'm glad to hear that this is resolving nicely.

Jesika

Thanks everyone!!!!!!!!!!!

I am very happy this part has gone our way.

I will keep everyone updated as things happen.

Estee-----I had alot of fun in chat last night too. Oh, and sorry about your shirt, LMAO.

I haven't been on here much lately, but just happened to catch this post, which brought back horrid memories for me of when my X mother inlaw always threantened me with getting my son. She was a very conniving and manipulative person. As soon as she began having association with my young son, she began to tell him that I was "evil" and that "I didn't love him". And, that she was the only person who "really loved him". How confusing can this be for a child aged two. When he began displaying unusual behavior, and could finally "voice" some of her statements, even my husband became infuriated. At first he said his mother could never see Brad again. This did last for about six months, until she promised she would not degrade me to my son.

But, she never stopped. She had a mission. From the beginning, she hated me. I wasn't good enough for her son. She told me to my face that she would "take my son from me, to replace the one she lost to me" through marriage. She was actually a very sick individual, but no one did anything about her.

When my husband commited suicide, she blamed me. She threatened me. And, at the funeral home, she attacked me physically. My son was fourteen at the time, and his life was changing in so many ways. He ended up telling me that "Nanny" was just so hurt and devestated that she needed him for awhile, so he told me he would stay until she quieted down. That was the opening she needed, and so she and her husband had him physically in their home, and went for total custody. My heart broke.

Bottom line, they tried to say I was an unfit mother. She was the ring leader, but her husband just did everything she said. My son was confused by the legal stuff and told me that Nanny and Pappa just wanted him to live with them for "awhile". Well, she finally got her way. I was in no position to fight for custody and she knew it. I spoke with a good attorney who advised me to "let him go". Children at that age will tell the Judge who they want to live with. Brad made his choice. I was crushed. Aside from breaking away from JW's, getting out of an abusive marriage, losing my son was the icing on the cake. I had a nervous breakdown which lasted years! It caused a deep chasm to form between us, because I lived in Virginia and they lived in Maryland. They kept me totally in the dark about everything in his life, his education, his health. When I called his school, they said I had no rights anymore, and that I could only get school information if "his grandparents" signed a form giving them authorization. They acted as if Brad had been taken away from me because I was unfit. That was simply never the case. They denied me phone calls and they denied me visits. All of this, happening shortly after I had lost his father.

It was nearly too much to bear. Had Tommy been alive, even though we were not together, he would never have allowed this to happen. Often he told me things about his mother, about how she abused him and the horrible memories of childhood. So I knew Brad was not in a good environment, but my hands were tied. I could not control these things in my life.

Brad and I were all but estranged for some sixteen years. I was left out of all the important stuff while he was growing up. His Nanny threatened to "hurt" me if he had contact with me, so he grew up afraid and disallusioned. I knew the only way we could ever heal was if she died. Although I never actually wished her to die, shortly after I said these words verbally to my son's companion, the woman DIED. She was only 68 years old.

When she died, everything changed. My son was free. Her husband was free. Her other child, a daughter was free. I was invited to her funeral and it was really strange. People practically "ignored" her in the casket, and were surrounding me with so much support and love--even her husband, my X father inlaw. Her whole family had been taken in by her. I cried all the way home to Virginia that day. I cried for the joy deep in my heart. I had waited such a long time for peace.

I sincerely hope that you continue to have the support of your X. You and he are the parents of your child, and no one else has a right to raise him, unless they can prove that you are an unfit parent. That is very difficult to do these days. It takes lots of court hearings, is very expensive, and takes it's toll on everyone. One suggestion: Keep your child away from her. She has bad intentions.

I wish you all the best. Hug your child tight, and never let him go!

Help she is trying to get to my son part4:)

Buster

Pleasuredome

ESTEE

truthseeker1

Jesika

Sentinel

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