I lost my sister today (page 2)

Solace

Teejay,

Im so sorry, thats awful.

What is she thinking?

MrMoe

((((((((((((Teejay))))))))))))

So sorry dear, sending you a very big hug.

Amanda

DannyBear

Dang my first post on this new forum....sorry for the repeat.

Tj,

Maybe she is insuring her ability to have contact with the entire clan. From what little you posted of her email, she doesn't seem to be aspiring to some unreachable godlike sprituality....as most jdubs seem to want.

As long as she keeps an open door to you.......thats a good a thing.

My daughter's (good little dubs) are doing so with me. Thanks for that.

Take care brother.

Danny

myself

I want to see my grandmothers and my d.addy again

Teejay, this is probably a lot of the reason. You feel that she won't be shunning you anytime soon. It is a huge factor in why many return. That bond of love that she holds for all your family is strong. It is a strong weapon that the WBTS uses because it works. I don't know the extent of what she has learned about that organization, but hopefully she will one day see it for what it is.

In the meantime the "illness" my seem terminal, however there is a cure. Hang in there.

onacruse

teejay, if I may be so bold as to say: you didn't lose your sister today. You haven't lost her any more than she's lost you. You/we are sad to see her go back down that old road, but as you say:

God bless my sister.

In a way, God already is, through you.

Craig

teejay

I'm at a loss for words Teejay, except to say that I'm so sorry you're hurting and experiencing this loss. -- nilfun

Nilfun (and all),

Thanks for the kind thoughts. Looking back, I think I may have gone a bit over the top in saying that I "lost" my sister. She's not dead, just returning to an active role as a Dub. My apologies to the forum for being so melodramatic. I was just a little stunned by my sister's email and didn't see it coming. Not at all.

Chin up there is hope she obviously loves you to send you what she did and I truly believe love prevails! -- SheilaM

SheilaM,

Although life holds few certainties, I'm pretty sure my sister loves her brother(s) and will keep the relationship open. I will definitely do my part. For many years (decades) members of my family who were dubs -- most of all our mother -- faithfully did the shunning thang. (My idiot older brother still does.) Here lately, for whatever reason, we've all (including reg-pio Mom) done an about face and have been getting together two or three times a year (although we're spread out over three states) and have made tremendous strides in rebuilding a close and loving family that was lost for so long. Hopefully that will continue.

Hey teejay,you lost your sister? Maybe not bud.Give her a while.When reality sets in,she may be out for good..Lets hope for the best.....OUTLAW

Thanks, Brother. You always sum things up so well. And you're right. Maybe the time away from Jehovah's People™ has given her a perspective she didn't have before and her return to the fold won't be the sublime experience she thinks it will be. We'll see.

Maybe its just a fad out of desperation. Hope she finds something better and more liberating in the near future. -- Brummie

Brummie,

You may be on to something. My sister has made a couple of bad decisions in her life and I think that *she* thinks that returning to the religion of her youth will bring her a bit of peace that - up till now - has seemingly eluded her. She is a free spirit, though, and quite outspoken, so I can't see her ever happily fitting in.

Thats really a shame. She sounds so unhappy. That is who the witnesses draw, unhappy people. Always looking for the "truth" and easy answers. I wish her the best. -- LB

LB,

See my comment to Brummie just above. IMO, she *is* unhappy and has been for quite a while. I think she's looking for the comfort that has been missing from her life. Thanks for wishing her the best. I like the sound of that since that's all I want for her, too.

I think it is nice to have family that even thou they choose to stay in, and you are out, at least express their love for you. In my case my Dad , hasnt spoken to me in a year, and can't bring himself to send a card, or phone to see if I am dead or alive. I guess , he considers me dead, and that's the end of that. -- LyinEyes

That's a damn shame, (((LyinEyes))).

I don't care what my daughter becomes, what religion (if any) she's a member of. That's my daughter! I will always support her, I will always love and care about her, I will always be there for her until I die. There's NO WAY I could be any different. My heart goes out to you. All little girls need their daddy. Mine's damn sure gonna have hers!

That's not the best news, but if she knew you at all, she's already got a head start towards "cognitive dissonance." I hope it doesn't last too long. -- Gamaliel

Gamaliel,

The problem with my sister is that, for all her bold outspokenness, she doesn't think very deeply. Like me, she was raised from the age of three as a Dub. Except she still seems to be quite thoroughly indoctrinated, never questioning the idea that the Watchtower Society "had the truth." Enough red flags should've gone up by now, but none seems to have. That's why her return has been so stunning.

What is she thinking? -- Heaven

Heaven,

That's just it. I don't think she is.

((((((((((((Teejay))))))))))))

Thanks, Amanda. Got it!

From what little you posted of her email, she doesn't seem to be aspiring to some unreachable godlike sprituality....as most jdubs seem to want. As long as she keeps an open door to you.......thats a good a thing. -- DannyBear

Dan,

Roger that. I can't see her being a good little "spiritual" Servant Of Jehovah, but I didn't see this coming either. I think she'll still want to have contact with us but the steady indoctrination coming from The Mouthpiece has weird affects on people that can't always be anticipated, as you know. All I can do (and I have, already) is let her know that nothing's changed on my end -- that she's as welcome as ever in our home and that I hoped we (I) was still welcome in hers.

Quoting my sister's email, I said: I want to see my grandmothers and my daddy again

Teejay, this is probably a lot of the reason. You feel that she won't be shunning you anytime soon. It is a huge factor in why many return. That bond of love that she holds for all your family is strong. It is a strong weapon that the WBTS uses because it works. -- myself

Myself,

I guess I should explain...

Her (and my) grandmothers and daddy aren't dubs. They never were. They're all deceased. Sis thinks that the only way she'll get to see them again is by being a good Dub and living through Armageddon that's just around the corner. Even if the dogma surrounding the resurrection were true, you wouldn't have to be a righteous, bible-toting, keeping up with the national average publisher, studying-for and going to all the meetings JW to see it.

It's so freakin' sad, seeing her still held so mentally captive. It's got me shakin' my head... it really has.

Simon

Hope it doesn't cause problems for you or come between you Teejay.

unclebruce

you never lost her tj, she's just sleeping!

here let's see if this works ..

HEY WAKE UP TO YOURSELF GIRL!!!!

nah, sorry must be deep rem

unc (of the many dosy sisters class)

ps: (((t)))

pss: I just had a rare letter from my mum. Apparently "the end is nearer than ever before!" (in a way she's right ya know - just 4 billion years and the earth will become a cold lifeless rock

DannyBear

*** It's so freakin' sad, seeing her still held so mentally captive. It's got me shakin' my head... it really has***

Your comment simply sums up the whole enchilada as regards our loved ones still held captive by the 'iron fist' of watchtowerism. Trying to pry those steely fingers free after rigor mortis sets in ofter requires some breaking of bones. More painful for the doctor than the patient.

Uncle, did your mom scare the piss out of you? Are you now dusting off the ole bookbag, checking the tire pressure on your bycicle? Got your little black book with return visits all laid out? Hey remember you now only have to get 15min in the witness work to remain in good standing. Hell man remember the days when we huffed and puffed out 100+ a month.

DannyBearly keeping from upchucking breakfast over tj's loss.

I lost my sister today

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