Guys, be honest - does your woman make more $$ than you do?

by DanTheMan 21 Replies latest jw friends

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  DanTheMan

  I wish she earnt enough so that I could do as I pleased all day.

  You mean you don't do that already RF? LOL
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  mustang

  Not right now, although she finally beat me the last time she was working. I am proud of her, working or not.

  Mustang
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  rocketman

  I think one of the keys is the attitude toward the relationship that both have. If it's "us" then most couples are fine - for example, as some have already said, the money all goes in one pile anyway.
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  DanTheMan

  Thanks for the replies all.

  The reason the question was posed was because I can see myself in such a situation someday, I am employed but you know I'm just not the bring-home-the-big-bucks kind of guy.
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  Sentinel

  In my first marriage, I was fortunate if my mate worked three months straight at one job. Due to his various problems, he never held a job long at all. We struggled. We were poor and lived in the country. When my father helped me get a car, I finally went out and got a job, and I ended up supporting the family for the most part. I could never count on support from my mate. I came out of high school with such good intentions, and just got into the wrong relationship. I gradually lost all the things I had personally taken pride in getting all on my own. My husband wreaked havoc on me, emotionally and financially. It was rough. He didn't mind me having to go to Social Services and beg for food stamps, or to the health department when we didn't have funds for doctors. Ughh, now that I look back on all of that, I was such a sub-surviant little Jdub, bound to my husband because he was "the head of the house". It was not how I wanted to live at all. He didn't seem at all embarrassed that I took on the role of provider.

  I thought by holding out, he would pull himself together and face his responsibilities. It didn't happen. Actually my child was then old enough to be able to get on the bus in the morning and come home by himself in the evening alone, (I still hated that so much) so working was probably a very good thing for me. I was just bitter about the circumstances and embarrassed about my home life. It was during this time, that I was also "suffering the most" due to the WT influence--trying to live my life according to everyone else.

  After struggling, it wasn't long before I was moving right up the ladder, using all my skills from regular educatio--(no college)-- I continued working from that point and still am, although my situation is quite different now, and I've had a much better position since 1985. I'm remarried and make a very good living, still a bit short of what my husband makes, but not by much.
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  SYN

  Francois, what's your book about?
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  Dansk

  My wife earns much more than me - but then she has to in order to keep me in the lifestyle to which I have become accustomed!

  And, SHE LOVES ME!

  Dansk
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  SpannerintheWorks

  Dansk,

  SHE LOVES ME!

  Yeah!, Yeah!, Yeah!

  Spanner
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  oldcrowwoman

  Yup! I sure do!!!
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  truthseeker1

  When I was married I made more than my spouse Most of the time. I was going through school too. Once she got a full time job and was making decent money, She surpassed me until I finished school and was able to enter the fulltime job market. With a degree, I got hired on at a company and surpassed her earning income. Did it effect us? Yes. When she made more money than me, she got on a power trip and always brought it up. Always said that because she made more money, she can decide how to spend the money. (not that we didn't share decisions, but now she took control) But once I started to make more than her, she acted different. Maybe she felt that she was supporting me or something and lost some respect. She didn't support me in fact, just supported her spending habits...LOL