We've decided to have a baby! (Advice needed)

by StinkyPantz 53 Replies latest jw friends

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  Farkel

  DJ,

  : see no problem with circumcision because it is for hygeine and it is the norm. Why make your child stand out because of his genitals

  Baloney! There is no hygeine problem unless the guys are too STUPID to wash it! Are you insinuating that God is so stupid as to give guys extra skin that had to be cut off because it would mess guys up if they were SO STUPID NOT TO WASH WHAT THEY SHOULD WASH?

  God: you gotta wash that stuff.
  Dumb Humans: I'm too stupid and lazy to wash that stuff.
  God: then cut off that skin, you lazy assholes. Then you don't have wash anything, you idiots.

  I'm circumcised, by the way, but it was stupid that I was, and I had no choice in the matter as a newborn infant. It's a Jewish thing that goes back thousands of years because people didn't bother to wash what they should have washed. Nature is better than the Jewish laws, and soap and decent washing using it proves my point.

  Farkel, of the "Smegma Class"
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  LDH

  uncircumsized penises looked gross

  How offensive to a man's natural state.

  Boy, these are some real brilliant chicks you work with, SP. The fact that you would even listen to input from such lame asses is proof positive that you are not ready for a baby.

  Just like men have no say-so over a woman's body issues, women should have NO input on men's (or even babies) body parts.

  Do these women have their clitorises circumcised? Yes, it is a different operation than a clitoridectomy--but it doesn't sound like the chicks you work with could even pronounce the word, much less understand the concept.

  Did you know that approx. 75% of the world is uncircumcised? I wonder do their women think their penises look ugly? How offensive.

  You might want to do some research before making a decision on this subject.

  Lisa

  Disgusted Class
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  RAYZORBLADE

  Hey SP. You know me, I'll support your decision. Being the old man that I am, and a capon (not a rooster, if ya know what I mean). So I'm not a mother hen etc., but well a caring and concerned older male.

  The circumcision thing: if you can, don't. I think it's not necessary. We live in a world with plenty of soap and water, and regards to an uncircumcised baby, this is where Daddy comes in and helps out. He can instruct his son, on how to maintain his member. Afterall, one can be circumcised and still be a stinkin' lazy bum. Hygiene is taught, and a child retains so well. He can learn to wash his hands, face and the rest of his body. Penis is no exception.

  I was born on an army base, and well...skin grafts must have been all the rage, as they (doctors) nailed me from the get go back in 1962. All my brothers were circumcised, but some of my cousins, their children, they decided not to do it. Basically, allow the son/boy to make THAT decision once he's older. I say: if ain't broke, don't fix it.

  LDH, Lyin Eyes touched on Folic Acid. Yes, my dearest cousin who lives near to me, she did this too, and had NO problem with her deliveries. She also breast fed both of her children. Best thing she said for not only the baby, but for Mum too.

  When I lived in the Philippines.....many years ago, I stayed at a small clinic in Manila. The babies that were born: I lost count after 100. I got to help out a couple of times, and it was an amazing experience to assist in delivering baby after baby (no exaggeration). It was neat. And some of those tiny little Filipino women would pop the baby out like a bar of soap in a wet hand. We'd literally have to have a catching mit to catch the baby once he/she was ready to bolt. And oh yeah, um...delivery...expect it to be a bit messy, but that's like that for everyone.

  My dear SP, I wish you well my dear. I hope you will be able to handle school/work/motherhood. I'm sure hubby will be helpful. I know damn well you're going to have probably some of the MOST beautiful children in the U.S. of A.

  Hey folks, don't let SP's avatar fool you: she's one knockout!

  Well, I think everyone has said plenty. I think I'll change my name to UNCLE RAYZORBLADE, if that's OK with you SP.

  I wish you well. Take care, and look after yourself.

  Big Hug ol' Rayzorblade
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  StinkyPantz

  Farkel-

  Farkel, of the "Smegma Class"

  You're really gross, ya know that?

  But what I was saying was that from the FEMALES I've talked to they think uncircumsized penises look gross. I don't want my kid being embarrassed when he starts having sex. As for the cleaning issue, little boys on up until teen years aren't the cleanest people, so I worry about that. You can TELL them to clean their foreskin, but will they really do it?

  LDH-

  Basically our decision was not to wait until I graduate (2 or 3 years from now). We aren't going to start trying tonight or anything. We hope that our trip to Florida will happen in late June or early July and a month or so after that when we are settled, we will try to conceive.

  As far as the circumscion issue I listened to the women at work because there will be similar women in my teenage sons life. Just because I listened doesn't mean they made up my mind for me. Give me a little credit. I can't ignore something just because I don't agree with it. And I am a bit offended that you've used this a criteria to tell me that I'm not ready to be a mother. Geez! I can ask opinions can't I?

  DJ-

  Thanks for all of the advice.

  Outoftheorg-

  Don't worry, I only plan on 2 or 3.

  nilfun-

  Sorry. . .

  aunthill-

  I definitely want my baby sleeping with me for the first couple months. I heard it helps in the bonding and keeps you from having to get up everytime you feel the urge to check on the little one.

  lyineyes-

  I kinda feel how you did about breastfeeding seeming gross. I know that it's a great thing to do, but I'll be honest, I worry about the sexual stimulation aspect of it and that makes it gross to me. I guess I have plenty of time to think about it.
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  StinkyPantz

  Ray-

  Are you saying my avatar is ugly?

  Anyways, you already know it's gonna be 'Uncle Ray' to the kids.
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  LDH

  SP--

  Sorry, sis. That was more of a tongue in cheek remark. Please keep retarded people away from your future child. These women have the credibility of gnats, AFAIC. I am not even kidding.

  Trust me, if you are a good mom your son will NOT want ignorant women like that in his life.

  I hope you do wait to get your degree. Wait to be financially stable. I hope you have love and happiness and contentment when you are ready to bring a baby into this world.

  Lisa
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  StinkyPantz

  LDH-

  We've already made up my mind about not waiting. I've talked to other people my age that had kids while in school and they say it's a struggle, but well worth it. My husband ain't young and if I plan on three kids, I'd like to start before he turns 40. We want to be young enough to enjoy our grandchildren too.

  As far as money is concerned, my situation is not as bad as I thought it was when my car was hit. It'll only set us back a month or two. We make enough money to effectively save several hundred a month and my husband's sister (who's incredibly rich) along with fam & friends will be showing us with gifts of diapers and clothing etc.
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  LDH

  Then congratulations are in order. ((((SP))))

  1. Folic Acid
  2. Stuart Pre-Natal GTs
  3. Nurse your baby for as long as you can
  4. Pampers Swaddlers, then Cruisers. Do not waste your money on any other diaper, including Pampers Baby-Dry.
  5. Get a water dispenser. Super quick if it's like mine--dispenses hot and cold water. Great for sterilizing quickly, making rice cereal quickly etc. Babies like to eat YESTERDAY. Get child-proof taps.

  Lisa
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  breal

  good site for those ttc (trying to conceive)

  http://www.fertilityfriend.com/
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  Azalo

  since you are going to be showered with gifts you sould register so u'll get the things you want, babyrus.com is a good site.

  essentials:

  1. stroller, i reccomend the carseat-stroller combos

  2. bouncer

  3. playpen- the kind that also has the little changing table

  4. lots of onesies

  I dont think a crib is a necessity because i think having the baby sleep with you is best, our baby slpet with us until she was 2. i definitely reccomend breast feeding, my kids never get sick. i disagree with LDH about the diapers, my wife and i like huggies (regular not supreme). cloth are great especially if you care about the environment and the service costs about the same or even less than disposable. dont expose yourself to any chemicals or fumes while pregnant (i speak from experience). cant think of anything else except that i agree with rayzorblade about the avatar.

  me