i think what it comes down to basically in a nutshell :
As far as their thinking goes - our families are choosing to spend 'eternal life without us' rather than spend the 'rest of our lives' with us.
Understanding that point is what helped me to fully let go.
For a long time I thought they were shunning me because they wanted me to return.
But it wasnt that at all.
They chose their path and nothing will come in between them and their goal.