Some of your comments might lead a reader to think you believe JWs are incapable of loving each other. Surely we all mourned for lost JW friends who passed. We all saw JWs helping other JWs when they saw a need to. We all visited sick friends in the hospital.
Sure the church was negligent in caring for physical needs in any organized manner and yes love was complicated by the environment of sectarian isolation, but JWs are still people who love and are loved.
I remember, and always will, when an elderly lady in our congo had her house (shack on stilts) collapse I organized a day to have it put back up. I had JW volunteers from villages far away that I didn't even know.
When a 5 year old boy was killed in a car accident we had a funeral wherein every eye was crying, even the speaker kept breaking down.
I'm quite certain that most of us still grieve to some extent over the loss of companionship and family of those who shun us. And I'm sure it is true the other way around, they grieve for us.
I'm not defending the church, I'm defending the victims in it.