by Juliana 35 Replies latest jw friends
Don't do it, Juliana!!! I am 57 years old, and was raised as a Jehovah's witness. They are a cult, and they destroy families and lives.
Go online and find Steven Hassan's book, Combatting Cult Mind Control. (there are exerpts online I think) Read it and share it with your guy. If he won't listen to you...............say goodbye now before you get more involved with him.
Hi Juliana, You wrote:
Why would God give us the power of rational thought, and then throw us into hell
All the religion, all the superstition, all the sacred texts written by all the crazies in all the history of the planet make more sense to me than one person who would go into a relationship with a Jehovah’s Witness by choice.
Hello Juliana! If the above posts have not warned you enough you should question the fact that nearly every book on cults lists the Jehovah's Witnesses as a cult. The Witnesses will vehemently deny it and back up their reasons will all sorts of nonsensical points however, the fact remains that they are a cult. I try not to give people advice on relationships because I don't have a lot of experience at it but, the Witnesses I have lots of experience with. I was born and raised one until I was 19. Whatever you decide with regards to your fiance please do not join the Witnesses unless you have done a lot of research into them.
Take care!
~Aztec
PLEASE BE CAREFUL JWs are a CULT. Once you are entangled with them, its not that easy to get out.
Hi, Juliana, and welcome,
You are mixed in with a dangerous man. As others have said, if he were a TRUE JW, he would not have dated, much less fallen in love with a non believer. I don't want to get into private matters, but if you have been in any way physical with him, including petting, touching of genitals, etc, he has again violated the rules of his religion. The fact that he has done these things, and is now insisting that you convert means he is confused, and uncertain of his own faith. One of the major downfalls with this religion is that they "disfellowship" members who break their rules, and if you are "disfellowshipped" even your own family members aren't allowed to talk to you. If you want proof of how this religion tears families apart, read the post regarding a letter sent to a former JW by her son. I don't remember the exact name of the post, but the mother goes by "Inky" in this forum. I'm sure you can find the letter. It will break your heart.
Get out now before it's too late. Believe me, this guy has a lot of problems, and you will spend the rest of our life trying to live up to a ridiculous standard that makes no logical sense.
Happyout (throwing a life preserver to Juliana)
edited to add the link to Inky's son's letter: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/53530/1.ashx
wowweee!!
You asked for it babe. What do you do with it. Perhaps to put the final nail in the coffin is to take all the salient points in this thread and present them to this guy for replys. If he comes out with the typical persecution complex that JWs usually come up with, Dump him.
Ditto what everyone else said.
PLEASE keep us posted, we care about you!
If you oppose the Witnesses, PLEASE TELL HIM SO!! Dont consider marriage if you both dont know what really goes in your heads about religion and the future.
Juliana, welcome
The other posters have already covered so much, I can hardly offer anything more
One thought that occurs to me, just as a possibility: Your fiancee can't be that strong in his beliefs, since he has been dating you, a worldly person. Perhaps there just might be a way for you to touch his heart and open his mind? What greater act of love than to rescue him from this life-numbing WTS cult?
Craig (who was raised in it)
Edit to add: I'm not suggesting that you first marry him, and then try to change him. But you already love each other, and perhaps that may be the golden opportunity to help him change himself first...your marriage then would be a mutually satisfying success.
oh good grief. DON'T do it!!
if anything tell him you will marry him only if he leaves the jws!!
