Who's responsibility is it to tell other JW's you're disfellowshipped?

Your congregation is informed. Then the gossip spreads like wildfire....and it gets around. If a witness speaks to you and does not know you are disfellowshipped.......then the Society expects YOU, to inform the uninformed. Nice eh?

Gumby

what-now?

Oops, I hit the send button too soon.

On with my question...I ran into a nice young couple outside my condo walking their dog. The wife recognized me before I recognized her and said: "I know you, you went to Westland [congregation". I said: "Yes, I remember you 'guys'."

We went on to talk about their dog (Rotweiler) and my cat (mut). (Their dog likes cats--strange, huh?) We talked a bit but I never did tell them I was disfellowshipped. Am I obligated?

shamus

Hee!

What are they gonna do if you don't? Cry?

I wouldn't care one way or the other... however, your friends might just be pissed at you for doing it... the cult and it's rules!

Swan

Your congregation is informed. Then the gossip spreads like wildfire....and it gets around. If a witness speaks to you and does not know you are disfellowshipped.......then the Society expects YOU, to inform the uninformed. Nice eh?

Unless you are trying to get reinstated, you really don't owe them a damned thing. Personally, I never tell them. I won't play their game and I treat everyone with friendliness and respect. If they start playing their little shunning mind games with me, however, I will not hesitate to embarrass the hell out of them for initiating the rude behavior.

Oh, and ...

Welcome What-Now!

Tammy

what-now?

Why, Gumby? I didn't ask to be df'd. And it would have ruined a perfectly nice conversation--one I might mention, never brought up anything spiritual, except her original recognition of me as being from the same hall they attended 5 or 6 years ago. She mentioned she had seen my daughter in the neighborhood (we move here two months ago) and she was so much taller and bigger. She never asked if I was still attending meetings or anything. For that matter they could have fallen away.

If the society expects you to 'confess' again and again that you're a second-class citizen to all the other holier-than-thou witnesses, then they really need to go over the rules when they put you out of the club. Wouldn't you agree?

gumby

Unless you are trying to get reinstated, you really don't owe them a damned thing

Correctamundo!

To do as they ask is to play by their rules as if to say.......".your right....I'm wrong......I'll obey".

I smile and say hello to any dub I know will not look the other way.........and theres a lot.( at least in my neck of the woods)

Gumby

IslandWoman

What-now?

You have no further responsibilities towards JWs, only towards yourself. If it is in your best interests to tell your friends then fine, but if not then do not.

This is my opinion.

IW

Swan

If the society expects you to 'confess' again and again that you're a second-class citizen to all the other holier-than-thou witnesses, then they really need to go over the rules when they put you out of the club. Wouldn't you agree?

This picture popped up in my mind of them sending all DAed and DFed people little booklets of rules in the mail. The postage would be astronomical, especially when you consider how often they change the rules!

Tammy

gumby

Hi... what-now ( I put the cart before the horse as I didn't see you were new and didn't say hello my first time)

Welcome.

Does your Avatar have a meaning you care to talk about? If nows too soon......thats OK.

Gumby

Who's responsibility is it to tell other JW's you're disfellowshipped?

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