by aspiration 41 Replies latest jw friends
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ladylee,I acutally have had some medical tests this year, and for the most part, shows that I'm as healthy as a horse. Who knows, though?
I don't know if this applies to you, but even men as they age suffer from hormonal defiencies which will cause mood swings just like women get. Might suggest to your doctor to run test for those too.
Best of luck and please don't overlook talk therapy to get to the root of the cause.
Kate
Hugs to you long time board member.
The number of times I wished to share some things and did not are plenty as I am sure with others. I know it must have taken lots of "courage" on your part to post what you did and I am sure many times you tried to hit the submit button and could not.
I hope this does not sound too stero typical but I've always believed that when you can finally speak about something you know or believe to be a problem no matter what it is, is IMO the first step in the healing process.
I wish for you peace of mind and happiness so that you may begin to feel better about yourself first, then are able to focus on what you believe to be areas that are in need of attention.
Please know you are in my thoughts and I send many hugs your way. If you wish feel free to PM me and know I would love to just be there if you ever need.
Love
Cassi
Um, just my two cents here...
DON'T try yoga.
DON'T try exercise.
DON'T try anything except for seeing your doctor AT ONCE. The longer you wait, the longer it is to get help! You are not in need of "pulling yourself together". You are in need of clinical help. Remember that it can be caused by many things;
Stress,
Diabetes,
Blood sugar intolerance (hypoglycemia, to name but a few)j
It's NOT your fault.
I suggest that you sign up at a message board, or check out these sites;
Look, they are able to help you in ways that this board cannot. Depression is even a stigmata on this board by certain members. They just can't understand it. However, suffering with it for nearly 25 years, I know what I'm talking about!
Also, forget that link to that "horrible" paxil and alcohol combination. If you want the real truth on Paxil, millions worldwide use it without any side effects, myself included. People just try to scare you.... you can have an equally bad reaction if you are allergic to asprin.
My email is:
Contact me anytime if you need help. I've been right where you've been!
Shamus.
Thanks again everyone. I'll be contacting some more of you. I'm a very cautious person, and I want to know where I'm going before I do something.
The thing is, I after my second post as my alter ego, I felt like such an ass. I deplore asking for assistance, even if it's just advice. I hate not knowing what to do. I was sitting on the couch, reading the paper and getting angrier and angrier at myself for posting this. Made me feel better that I was anonymous, though.
Big Tex, I'll be sending a message your way soon.
And Shamus,
great advice, and when I read this
It's NOT your fault.
I thought of one of the final scenes from Good, Will Hunting. Don't know why that matters, but it's comforting for some reason.
lyin, biker, cass, all you others, thanks. Remember, I'm leaning on you guys, just for the few seconds I'm reading the posts. It's nice, and I think I'll try it more often.
aspiration
Aspiration,
I remember that scene.... wow! That was amazing. I liked that movie.... the girlie man I am... uh oh - another thread comin'.... "Men, do you like girlie-movies?".... LOL!
Look, email me anytime you want. I don't care who you are, and you don't ever have to tell me, ok? Those message boards aformentioned is a GREAT way to get out your anger / feelings, and find out that you are not alone with these feelings.
I really really want you to make an appointment to see a doctor asap, though. Do it right now before you chicken out. It's hard, but you have to do it!
shamus
aspiration I hear you when you say you find it hard to ask for help. Personally I could care less what name you use to do that. If it helped to use an alias then bravo for doing that. It takes real courage to stand up and say I need something. As exJW we were taught that these kinds of problems are a weakness Bullshit. It isn't a weakness to recognize that there is a problem and we need help. A lot of men if not most men have been told that asking for help is weakness - more bullshit. It takes a lot of courage to overcome a lifetime of that kind of crap
And if you were abused (don't know if you were or not but if you were then that too adds the pressure of don't talk, be a man and stand on your own two feet.
All of us here have been trough enough crap just with the dubs alone to cause us severe emotional reactions.
Do what is right and take care of YOU cuz you know what
YOU deserve it
hey asp,
I can't add much else.............but my well wishes. Many of us know pretty well what you're experiencing. Either worse, not as bad, or someone in our family.
Whoever you are - betcha you got some friends here. Hug your wife & get some professional help. And keep on chatting - it does help. Honest.
Best wishes and a hug,
waiting
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I don't have any additional advice to offer, because everyone else said it so well. Just please follow the advice to contact your doctor as soon as possible.I have been where you're at, and I know how hard it can be. And being the strong one all the time is very difficult, I know. I found help through medication ( which I have been off for over two years now )and therapy together. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and I wish you the very best. Please take care and be well.
Feel free to email me also, at [email protected].
About the abuse--my "abuser" was excema, asthma and generally being allergic to the world. I had a mother who recognized very early what was going on and demanded treatment from doctors who had never seen a baby with these ailments before (I am old old old--back in the day when allergies were uncommon and everything was the fault of a rejecting mother). My parents (my mother did the work, my dad paid without complaint) did everything they could. And when nothing worked very well, well, I became the object of much frustration and worry which felt to me like anger and blame. I still will have a small symptom that can set off weeks of withdrawal and despair if I don't recognize what's going on and deal with it. So, Chris is right--there can be a lot of pain which you think is long past and dealt with that your current depression is telling you is not long past and dealt with! Doesn't have to be the kind of horrific trauma he dealt with, though. Hope you've made that doctor's appointment!
Aspiration,
Some great advice given so far! Sounds to me like clinical depression and perhaps other issues, as Big Tex said.
Unfortunately your depressed feelings are all too common. Some in my family suffer clinical depression from time to time and the only thing that helps is medication. I was clinically depressed once and medication helped me over the hump.
Email or call me if you like. [email protected] 970-206-1555 evenings.
AlanF
