It should be his middle finger he's raising!
My JW Husband Got a "Privilege" Back - UGH!
by worldlygirl 37 Replies latest jw friends
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badolputtytat
Worldly: I dont blame you at all for being angry.... But Prisca recently reminded me of something... Harsh words tend to send them even deeper into this thing. (see her post on the harshness thread)
You have every right, are completely justified in what happened. And this is just my unwanted opinion, but what minimus said, in short seems to be your best approach. I would dare to say that your husband probably went (or will go) right back to them and complain .... in the end, they will use that to show him their "love"... they will show him that he has to be "protected" from the bad ol unbeleiving wife. The more love you can show him, even if you have to hold your cookies down, and bite your tounge.... the more your chances of getting to him.
jmo
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worldlygirl
The more love you can show him, even if you have to hold your cookies down, and bite your tounge.... the more your chances of getting to him.
I know, I know. Thanks for reiterating, though - honestly. I am really Type A and I have such a hard time holding my tongue - much less my cookies . I really think it is too late for me to try the lovey-dovey approach, though. I have made my opinion of the organization abundantly clear, unfortunately, so everything I say is suspect. If I could do it all over again, I would try to be calmer about the whole situation.
But as things are now, I just CAN'T and WON'T go down without a fight. This is my marriage, and I will be damned if I will let some self-righteous old geezers ruin it without a hell of a battle. I may lose, but they will never forget me.
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badolputtytat
You have such a tough call to make Worldlygirl..... I cannot pretend to have an answer, nor do I envy you your situation. It is such a difficult thing especially when it is a spouse that you are dealing with.
BUT whatever you do.... dont ALLOW them to cause the two of you not to speak. That is just what they want. Make him talk to you, it doesnt have to be about this issue, but keep the communication open. Find a different... more common ground that you two share, and try to remind both yourselves why you are together in the first place. I simply do not know the answer to this... it is perhaps the reason this board exists????
It is sad how much they are willing to sacrifice... children, parents, and even spouses.
(((((((((((((((Worldlygirl))))))))))))))))))
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Mary
You're tell me that MY HUSBAND, the person I am SUPPOSED to be able to count on to make decisions for this family, just met with three old men and asked their PERMISSION to RAISE HIS HAND and READ THE ANSWER THAT IS ALREADY WRITTEN in the literature?????
Exactly. Ask your hubby to show from the bible wear it says he has to do this shit.........it ain't in there; it's just another stupid man made rule by senile, sexually frustrated old farts..............
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jgnat
I am trying to think of an alternative approach. Going ballistic on him probably is not helping. Those elders, though, need a good spanking. Is your hubby trying to do everything right by everybody? The guys at the hall sure aren't making it easy. Then he comes home and he gets another double-barrel in the chest from you. How about giving him a haven where he can be a thinking, intelligent human being - at home, with you. A place where he can be himself and be accepted. How about cutting out the middleman and go for the elders? Let your hubby know that is no way to treat a man, and that it is about time somebody told them?
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ashitaka
WG,
I gotta tell ya kiddo, I understand why you're pissed, but you gotta be more subtle with the guy to get through to him, to teach him that these guys are just enjoying toying with him.
I definitely understand your frustration, but be calmer about things next time, think of something to say ahead of time.
good luck,
ash
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ESTEE
(((((worldlygirl)))))
Argh!!! I feel for ya!!!
"Whoa, buddy, you are NOT the head of this household,
You got that right......seems you have three decrepit elders heading up yer household, honey......sheesh!!! I'm soooo sorry...
ESTEE
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Aztec
It's like a big game of "Mother-May-I?"
Okay, that was toooo funny! But also true, which makes it sad.
~Aztec
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SheilaM
Min: No, thanks for asking