Did you lose respect for your parents because of the JW / Watchtower crap ?

by run dont walk 38 Replies latest jw friends

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  freein89

  You got that right. My mom accepted "the truth-puke" when I was a baby. So I was raised in it. The problem is that my mother is and was the biggest hypocrite in the world, bar none. She never even pretended to live up to the standards that she expected of us. She did a fade while I was still one of the faithful, after I bailed she would give me the old "I know its the truth" routine. God I hate that phrase. I finally confronted her, asked her how she could say that when she NEVER lived up to it. She doesn't say that anymore, but she and my Dad REAM MY ASS because I don't believe in God. I told them the only god I ever learned about was the god of that religion.

  Any old how-yes complete and utter loss of respect for dear old mom and dad. I am 47 and they are in their 70's and are as nasty as ever.

  sigh, I wish I had a nice Mommy and Daddy like all the other kids.
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  unbeliever

  As a teenager I use to lay awake at night and wonder how my mom could be so damn stupid to fall for the jw bullshit. I would get mad at my unbelieving dad for not putting his foot down sooner. What's even more pathetic is that I had not even been born yet. I was pissed at my dad for not preventing something before I was even born. By the time he did it was too late. She was a full blown jw and wanted me and my siblings to be. Then my parents got divorced. What misery.

  In one ear I had my mom shoving that shit down my throat and in my other I had my dad telling me it was a cult and to NEVER get baptized. By 12 years of age my dad had educated us on the history of the WT. My mom new he was telling us the history and she would try and undo the "damage". Then she would cry all the time and tell us how come dad had so much influence over us. So much pressure.

  I'm am absolutely amazed that we turned out half way sane. I have absolutely no respect for my jw mom. She has no relationship what so ever with my sister (DF'd and shuns her) and a very limited one with my brothers and I.

  You know she has a new daughter. One of her studies got baptized a few years ago and they do everything to together. Her kids call my mom grandma. I hope she enjoys it. My dad has swore never to remarry. To bad. Sometimes I wish I could replace dear old mummy.
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  tinkerbell82

  i didnt utterly resent my parents for believeing in the JW stuff. i resented them for not allowing me to dissent, for forcing me to censor my own thoughts. i felt like i grew up without them really knowing me. my mom's still a jw and so is my stepdad, but now that i'm not forced to believe the same garbage they do, i have a great relationship with them, and my mom is awesome, she's basically one of my best friends (we just dont talk about religion EVER), and having that distance allowed me to really appreciate my stepdad too, he's a far better dad than my own father ever was or will be. i disagree with the way they raise their remaining children, but it's out of my hands.
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  happyout

  While I ponder the ability of my very intelligent mother to swallow unquestionably every piece of drivel the WTS puts out, in all other ways she is superior. She taught me from a very young age to be responsible, both morally and financially, and helped me learn about making my own way in the world. When I decided to move out, she never tried to stop me, only tried to convince me to wait long enough to save money to buy instead of rent. I didn't listen, but she was right. I feel and felt that I was not encouraged to pursue secular education, but she says she would have been fine if I went to college, and she regrets that I did not.

  Overall, I was blessed with an outstanding mom, and I wouldn't trade her for the world.

  My dad (may he rest in peace) is another story, and his failings have nothing to do with the JWs, as he never really practiced.

  Happyout
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  ikhandi

  I really can't say that I have lost respect for her as a whole. I mean she is still my parent. Over the last couple of years I have learned to respect her for her beliefs as a jw, because I have really no other choice. After all the problems I have put her through, by my departing, I am fortunate that we are even on speaking terms. I regret that I had no other choice but to follow in her footsteps by excepting jw beliefs. What othe choice do you have if your a minor and live with your parents, who support your exsistence? It was never my choice and for that I will always have issues with her.
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  badolputtytat

  Hi Run,

  Yes I lost respect for my parents. For the longest time, I boasted about the "loving environment" that I had that others did not seem to have. But now that I am older, and back in touch with my father, I see him as just another borg. The more the lies come out, and deceptions un-covered, I am finding that my father is just as involved as ever. He is an elder, and I can "sense" the deceit in him. I ask him the "hard-hitting" questions, and listen to his voice change.

  He is still the lovable little funny man that he always was when it comes to anything else. But when the topic of the Society is touched on.... he changes. Like I can hear the shame? or something. I often tackle him with important questions just to see what he will say... my next one will be... Would you sacrifice me again for this organization, knowing what you know now? I'll let you know.
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  teenyuck

  run don't walk, you are not alone.

  I do not respect my mother. My father is dead, however, he had lost my respect decades before.

  My mother saw the destruction the JW had on her immediate family and decided to join at the age of 23 anyway. She knew what she was doing. She saw her mother leave the family to go preach on the street corners of Chicago wearing a sign that said armageddon was coming. She saw that and still got involved.

  She still tows the party line and will defend the bastards in Brooklyn. She lost every family member because of the JWs and cannot see that. I am the only family that she has.

  My sister hates her. Really hates her. I don't respect her, however, if she died, I would cry. Her three sister's hate her. Her nieces and nephews hate her. Her grandson hates her.

  All because she insists on pushing the JW moral code on to them. And she cannot follow it herself.

  Reading these types of threads just makes me cry.
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  sf

  Two words:

  Totally and completely.

  Weakness for 'men' isn't anything I will EVER respect. And my daughter is learning this early with her own 'father' and thus he teaches her daily by his action of non action that 'men' WILL make you weak if!!!...YOU ALLOW IT!

  In my eyes, to willingly choose to ALLOW 'men' to 'make' you weak, is disrespectful to yourSELF. Unless he is holding a loaded gun to your head and demanding your 'weakness', you will be held responsible for YOUR CHOICE.

  Okay, okay, that was more than two words.

  sKally
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  minimus

  YEAH, I HATE MY PARENTS. THEY SUCK AND THEY'RE OLD TOO. THEY DID NOTHING GOOD FOR ME. I WISH I WAS DEAD AND THEM TOO. IF THEY NEVER BROUGHT ME INTO THIS WORLD, I WOULDN'T BE ABLE TO READ THIS CRAP EITHER........
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  teenyuck

  Minimus, there is a big difference between hating and not respecting. Parents don't get respect just *because*. Especially from adult children.

  My sister's issues with my mother are not for the board. My mother's with her sister's are a direct result of my mother demanding that her sisters conform to proper JW behavior or my mother would be forced to not associate with them. Her own sisters!! They gave her the finger and went on with their lives.

  They too became JWs, however, they despise each other. All because she took a *holier than them* attitude. And she will not admit it. I can recall her telling her 19 year old sister she was a whore for letting her boyfriend pay for her apartment. Therefore, my mother would not speak to her until she was *clean*.

  Would you respect this woman if she were your mother?