Do you think a jw that is going to a birthday party is a hypocrite?My husband is going to his mothers b-day party.She is going to be 80.He said that he is going just to visit.But it,s a BIRTHDAY PARTY.In a jws mindless mind you can lie and excuse anything you want.HYPOCRITE!
Would you be willing to admit it if you've been a hypocrite?
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wasasister
Deb: Wow! That was a very honest post. I can relate, especially to this:
By the way, I had helped my husband with many of his talks, when he didn't know what to say he came to me and I supplied, I wonder how many other "elderettes" are out there?
Answer: Tons.
Many are "elderettes" not by choice, but because their husbands are appointed solely on the basis of their gender, not on their qualifications. Any brother who keeps his nose clean and sucks up to the right people long enough will eventually be appointed.
My husband never achieved the level of elder. It took him many years just to be a ministerial servant because he had no particular knowledge, hated door-to-door work, had crappy meeting attendance and participation, no speaking skills. I wrote every talk he gave - from simple Ministry School Bible readings to his few public talks. He'd sit up all night agonizing over it and then come to me begging for my "help", which meant complaining and whining until I took over the job.
Talk about co-dependent!!
We were both screaming hypocrites. At the KH, we put on the front of being the perfect family (even if the family head was a little "weak"), but at home, we were completely dysfunctional. I think my kids hated the double life. The turning point for my younger daughter came when she saw her dad turn in a report for a family study that had never, not once, taken place.
My favorite story of hypocracy, though, has to do with how the Society treats women:
My husband's duty in the congregation was to assist in the accounting. Of course, he had no accounting skills and could barely add. The Presiding Overseer came to me, since I was working as an accountant and tax preparer at the time, and asked me to perform the quarterly audit. He read from the KM, which stated: "The Presiding Overseer, or someone appointed by him...." and thought it was non-specific about who might be appointed.
I agreed and began to audit regularly, filling out the Society's form and signing it. All went well until we had a change of CO. This guy was old school, and when he saw the audit forms signed by a "sister", he came unglued. It was explained to him that I was the best qualified, but he would not bend.
The PO asked if I would continue to do the job, but have my husband sign the forms. For one of the first times, I put my foot down and said absolutely not!
The Society has no problem using women to do any sort of work when they can get free skilled labor, but they don't dare treat them as if they are respected members of the congregation team.
We all learned our hypocracy from masters.
Wasa
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SpiceItUp
I've always said that my 2 biggest peeves are Blatant hypocrisy & liars. Being that I can't stand those traits I try myself to avoid being either.
I was raised a JW and as soon as I felt somethnig was wrong with the religion then I quit going. I didn't bother trying to appease my family by getting dunked or even just attending. My mother later thanked me for being true to myself.
I know that in the past there (I am sure) times that I have been hypocritical and/or lied but no longer. I have in fact lost friendships over my being "too" honest.
With all that being said I do sometimes find that I can be quite contradictory but for some reason its not quite the same as hypocrisy.
(*sigh* does making this post make me a hypocrite )
good read btw