As I said earlier, alot of this is semantics.
Interesting discussion. And you could easily be right Pete, and I'm just too stubborn to acknowledge it. Wouldn't be the first time.
And I won't argue that it's a conundrum, because it is. I guess what I'm doing right now is exploring the idea that there are two absolute, knock down, in all situations, moral and ethical absolutes. From that standpoint then I'm willing to listen to scenarios that challenge my stand. I'm still not convinced. Even in Reborn's example, the two options he presented both were harmful (or what I would label as "wrong"), so I don't see that scenario as being about helpful or harmful. I see it more as the lesser of two evils. Pick your poison, if you will.
I do agree with you wholeheartedly about appreciating the sensitivity of a situation. A good example I think is homosexuality. Many people view it as immoral. I choose to take the stand that it is possible genetics and/or biology plays a role we don't understand, as well as it's none of my business how someone else lives their life so long as no one is harmed. In that question I see the possibility of benefits not only to the people involved but to society in general.
Jack
Thank you. I don't know how courageous I am, I may just be foolish. I hope I don't come off like some whiny little man making a plea for sympathy. And I hope I don't embarass anyone by being so frank. That was not my intention. It's just that I don't feel what happened is my fault, and though there is still some shame, it's much easier to talk about now than 15 years ago when I was in therapy. I try to be sensitive toward how a statement sounds, and so I try not to go into details or say too much about it out of respect for others.