Stay OR Slay

RAYZORBLADE

To anyone who clicks on this thread and cares to post upon it. I have a few questions for you.

Do you value this forum on its ability to keep newbies/recent posters to stick around, therefor: STAY

Or, do you value this forum on its ability to insult, put-off, patronize and/or ridicule newbies/recent posters, therefor: S L A Y

No kettle calling the teapot anything. In my years post-JW, I have to admit, I was a real tyrant and supreme jack-off on some of the old forums.

Oh...do I regret my actions? Damn right I do!!

When I think about how I was post-JW, minus the internet or any post-JW support networks; having a welcome haven, would have made all the world of difference to me. But, because I did not have that, well, I festered, simmered and stewed in my silence...post-JW.

When an outlet was found: WWW (world wide web) internet, what have you, I nearly went out of my tree, with investigating XJW sites. I was a powderkeg with a short fuse that could be quickly ignited with mere benign words. Pitiful, and shameful.

YOU, yes you, who may be reading this thread. I have a couple of questions.

How do you value a site/forum: is it by how many stay, or how many we can slay?

That I'd like to know.

We are all coming, from the most part; a life post-Jehovah's Witness, and we have been stiffled from speaking up and giving our honest heart-felt opinions. Aside from that.....if there is any retrospective point of view to be retrieved from?

What worked for you?

What drew YOU here, and what keeps you here?

Thanks for any replies. Yes, even the sarcastic ones, if there be any.

onacruse

Razor, this is a great topic!

What drew me here was personal recommendations; what keeps me here is the incredible sharing and sense of belonging that I feel. Especially, those who honestly share their feelings. A hard thing to do, indeed; and thus all the more a treasure.

We have a developing, and burgeoning, community that we can access through this forum.

May it remain so.

Craig

rem

I don't think we're in danger of this site dying from attrition! In fact it's growing like gangbusters. Some people are cut out for discussion boards, some aren't. Stay and slay, I say... hey hey hey.

rem

Prisca

Great post Rayzorblade!

I don't understand the whole "slaying" concept. Why do you want to pull apart complete strangers just because they believe differently to you? Whatever happened to respecting another person's point of view, no matter what you thought of it?

This board is primarily one for support. Simon has constantly said that in the past, and since he's the owner/operator of this board, then that's what this board should be. Despite the flame wars, people have been able to find support and encouragement from this site. Those of us who have been able to meet up with other posters have made great friends. Information is given, ideas are thrown about, advice sort after and offered. We've seen births, deaths, marriages and divorces. Some have DA'd as a result of reading this board.

I often wonder why I stay, particularly at times when posters become insulting and argumentive for no reason. It's not like I need reaffirmation that I've made the right decision in leaving - I know I've made the right decision. The main reason I stay is to see what those I regard as friends post here. The board for me has become more of a social centre, a place to hang out with those I've come to know and love. I also used to be here for lurking Aussies, but not many seem to be interested in posting here, nor in making up support groups, so I've given up on that idea. But informally I have a support group of ex-jws, so even if this board didn't exist, I would still have someone to talk to who understands where I've been.

avengers

They are a fun way for people to grow into really connecting with people - even when it is about the cat.

I stumbled onto this board in Oct 2001. Before that I had noone to talk to about dubb matters.
So I stayed.

Hey this board is even nice to cats. Can't be all bad then?????Can it? lol

Andy

fairy

I came across this site after the abuse issue aired here in australia on tv.

I found this site very interesting as some of you are very knowledgeable and offer good reasoning on certain points.

There are some on this board who have very strong opinions on certain things and if i do not agree, i just get on to reading the next item.

Everyone has the right to put their opinions across and i value the input on the odd occasion that i have had something to say, even though the subject may not mean much to someone else but the fact that i can put it on this board is of great value and comfort to me

obiwan

What drew YOU here, and what keeps you here?

What drew me here was curiousity.

What keeps me here are good friends.

(No slayers allowed)

smack

Like Andy said, I stumbled in only a few weeks ago. For 22 years I had nobody to talk to about "it" Those in don't want to hear you, those out don't know what the hell you are talking about. I post regularly to a motorcycle news group, same but different. Some people get crucified there but most settle in and stay.

I hope to be a stayer here.

Steve

NeonMadman

Drat. I thought this thread was gonna be about Buffy...

Robdar

Hi Rayzor, great topic!

When I first started posting on this forum, there was a huge fight and disagreement that occurred. It involved several posters. Some were on my side, some on the other. It was my first experience on a db and my first flame war. I got my feelings hurt but I stuck it out. Maybe it is because I am stubborn. Maybe it is because I understand that misunderstandings occur. Maybe it is because I saw the value of this forum. Either way, I stuck it out and am happy to say that the people that I first fought with are some of the people I trust most on this board because they were real with me. I am also still friends with the posters who saw my side and stuck up for me.

Cyberlife is similar to real life when it comes to confrontations, misunderstandings and standing up for yourself and your beliefs. I don't think that the old timers on this board owe the newbies anything. Many of our senior posters add flavor and humor. Many times their humor is misunderstood because of the limitations of a written medium. Too many nowadays are too sensitive and pc. They use words like "play nice" and "feelings" to dictate to others how to behave.

If the newbies can't handle what occurs on this db, then maybe they should come back later when they are less delicate.

Robyn

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