Stay OR Slay (page 2)

freein89

Razorblade,

you old softie, I'm having a psychic moment here, because I have spent the weekend thinking about the changes in me since finding the board. After years of feeling shut down, stifled, defensive and being unwilling to make new friends, I have begun to speak. Not just here though, it has begun to move into the rest of my life. I have an opinion and I express it. I had planned on starting a thread this morning, because I feel so good, and it is slowly becoming a consistent sense of well being and dare I say worthiness.

As for the nastiness here, I usually don't get it, what I mean is I can't figure out what the fights are about, why some people get mad and post a nasty reply to a post that didn't seem to deserve it. When I see that happening I usually get bored and drop the thread. But the fights do demonstrate that emotions run high among many ex JW's, and I have seen that as a sort of post traumatic effect of having been a witness, particularly among those born into it.

Thanks for your insight and now you might have to change your name from Razorblade to something like sweetie-pie or wrm&fzy.

Deb

StinkyPantz

I think that most people benefit from this site and it has good staying power.

RAYZORBLADE

Thanks for your posts thus far.

I was having one of those moments where I was curious as to how some of the forum members feel about the perception that this forum gives off.

I have been on other forums over the years. It was like, the more people you could slay (get rid of), sort of like an exclusive clique of misery, the better it was. Wrong!

Time passes, and a good swift kick in the butt by a poster a couple of years ago, gave me one helluva wake-up call. I wish I knew who or he/she was, but I can tell you, it haunts me to this very day.

Time to be more empathetic, understanding and welcoming, despite some of the hard-assed JW mindsets that still cling to newly exited persons. Time to remove the thorn than to sit on it, and cry about the agony of it. Get the damn thing out. There....ah...that's better. Time to heal.

Hey, I was one of those newly exited persons.

So.....instead of wearing the ammo, and ready to quick fire at a moments notice, I found you can catch more bees with honey.

Generally speaking the forum, is welcoming, warm and friendly. It has its moments, but then most forums do (religious/non-religious).

I would like to look at this forum as one that has staying power.

Thank you for your posts.

wednesday

My first post was about "do the demons still bother u?" Boy did i get hammered..I could not understand it b/c i thought this board was full of xjws and we had all believed in demons at one time.. I soon found out that many had moved on and no longer believed that, and some still did. this board has been a real learning experience.

weds

Yizuman

Drat. I thought this thread was gonna be about Buffy...

lol@Neon Yiz

primitivegenius

hey when you walk out those pearly kingdom hall doors................... (BARF) you have no one to talk to or usually friends even. this forum gives a person enough association to keep them semi sane. so staying is cool but people that are easily offended............... there gonna get slayed anyways. do i want people to be ran off... no, will i try to run people off.......... probably not. if they do..... well thats there choice but i enjoy this site and plan on irritatiing yall for quite a while to come..............

czarofmischief

I came because I was seeking some way to align what I felt about the religion with actual facts and study - ie. it is a compilation of all kinds of research that helps me stay mentally free of the cult.

I stay because of Ravyn's avatar... heh heh heh...

CZAR

heathen

I can speak from my own experience that the people on this forum proved to be worth the effort to stick around . I received a very friendly atmosphere . This is the first place I even ventured to post anything and have entirely enjoyed the experience . There will always be some that come here to cause mayhem no doubt but over all I think the intelligence level and attitude are above that .

KGB

I don't know if anyone has noticed but you can sure tell when you have to go into the members listings just how many new people are coming to this board. There are new people coming here everyday but you don't see them posting here. The ones that like to pick are only a select few and you can tell who they are without even having to see bad and rude words in there post. I think it's just who they are probably will not ever change those few. But I honestly believe thatif it were not for those rude and crude few here that there would be a whole lot more posters. Not just ones that would come here to read but to also share. When I first came here I did not post at all I read and read for a long time before I actually made and post or started any threads. I remember saying to myself I sure hope I can handle this oh hell yeah I can handle it anyone gives me any crap I'll just give it back and not to mention another poster on this board is a very good friend of mine. We were involved in the JW's together and knocked on doors together. He was the one that brought me here so I did not want to disapoint my friend and came here.

Since then I have walked away a couple of times but it never seems to fail me that it's not long and I am back again. I had to really think about what and why I kept coming back but it's an inner feeling that cannot be explained. I guess some of it's because I feel sorry for the way that some have become since leaving the borg and the fact that there are some that desparately need others help. I have found a few good friends here and for the most part of it have enjoyed my time here. I know that my time here will be limited because eventually we all have to move on to bigger and better things but while I am here I would really like to get along with everyoneincluding those who seem not to get along with anyone. But in all I think it very important that those who come here that are new we should always be thinking about them as we all here pretty much have our ways set and have managed pretty well with ourselves from coming out of the borg and they have just begun there excursion away from the WTS.

I'm going to make a pact here ; for now on when someone trys to belittle me or call me names on my threads or post I am not going to return with my impugnant name calling either. I will simply ignor you because I do believe in judgement and I do not have to stand in judgement for you but only for me and I will not lower myself down to those who do such things level. I am a very friendly and out going guy who likes to get along with all people, I am not racist or judgemental of others and I have come a long hard walk from leaving the borg and I have endured pain like many of you have never endured from them. I have kept my faith in God and I am going to keep it, there is nothing out there that can make me stray away from that. All I ask in return is that you respect me for my beliefs the same that you want me to respect you for yours. Thanks, KGB

StinkyPantz

KGB-

I notice that you spoke of a few rude people keeping others away from the board. I totally agree with this.

for now on when someone trys to belittle me or call me names on my threads or post I am not going to return with my impugnant name calling either.

But do you know what really shows character? Not just supressing the need to strike back, but humbling accepting an apology, not ignoring it and offering one of your own. Often times resentment festers because we choose not to "forgive and forget". What do you think?

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