What should I do? (page 3)

Tameria2001

I just wanted to say thank you for all your replies. My family and I did attend the family reunion, and as the JW relatives had planned, showed up late, assuming that we would be gone by the time they arrived. One of them pulled my husband aside as asked for us to leave. My husband's reply to him was rolling his eyes, and said, "Yea, what ever. We'll leave when were good and ready, and not when you say so." There was an F bomb placed in there as well.

Anyways I did see the woman who use to be my biological sister there as well. But I made sure that I was totally ignoring her, I know that this would burn her to no end, because she was the one who is suppose to do the shunning. There was no love loss in the beginning, because I absolutely can not stand the site of her, even when back when I was still a JW.

The family reunion went off really well, and I got to see family members that I hadn't seen in years. I'm thinking that the relative that originally asked us to leave early in a message was only doing that, so to convince the JW relatives that we would not be there by the time they arrived. But it still ticked me off, her even bringing this up, but that's under the bridge now.

As far as doing any anti witnessing, I never had to do this, because most of the family (who are not JWs) have already seen first hand the ugly side to those people. Their actions towards us, back when we first left, acatually prevented several relatives from evening joining that cult. I did think it was pretty funny how my husband handled his brother though. He a very blunt man, and he doesn't care who he says it to, well except for me, because he doesn't want like seeing my red hair flair towards him. lol

Funchback

Great stuff, Tameria2001.

I'm glad you went and didn't play by anyone's rules except your own.

Heartsafire

Tameria2001, it is good to hear you went and had a nice time. Glad your husband stood up to those bullies and wouldn't take their cheek. Sounds like you were able to enjoy most of your visit. I am appalled that these people who claim to be true Christians are so hateful towards you and your husband. You would think they would be as kind as possible to try and "win you back". It sounds as though their egos are more what they are protecting than their religion. Anyway, hooray for you guys:-)

Tameria2001

Heartafire, a few years before my husband and I left that cult, it was his brother who came over to our home, and informed us that we and our children would die at Armageddon. Now mind you, I was still going to the meetings, and going out in service (when I could find the time), and hadn't even thought about leaving. His wife, my own sister, the one I mentioned that was at the family reunion, she would always make stuff up about my family and I, just to make herself look good with our parents. In case it's a little confusing, but my husband's brother is married to my sister. When we left that cult, those were the type of people we left behind. It's been almost 16 years since I last saw those people, 16 years too soon in my book. I can only picture the outrageous stories she is going to spread after today.

Gulf Coaster

I'm sure it burned your sister's butt that, by you ignoring her, it denied her the opportunity to do the ugly JW shun thing they so self-righteously love to do. Good for you! And bravo for not leaving early.

But I disagree with you just letting the whole thing go, like water under the bridge, without saying anything to the relative who sent you that text. I would have told them, in the nicest way possible, that it was a hurtful request. Perhaps write them a Thank-You card with a separate note inside?

Explain to them that you understand the uncomfortable position your JW relatives' intolerance placed them in, and that you understand she was only trying to accommodate everyone. Tell her that by you leaving early, it would have made you and your family look and feel like pariahs who had something to feel ashamed for or bad about. And that you would have missed out on enjoying the lovely time you all had, when you decided to stand your ground and stay.

I dunno, that's just the way I felt when I read your story. I wouldn't have just let it slide as if it were no big deal. It made me angry.

Heartsafire

Tameria2001, it is simply disgusting how your JW family has treated you these years. It is bad enough that they shun their own blood, but to antagonize the situation by saying you and your kids will all die at Armageddon is crossing a serious line into cruel judgment. Your sister sounds like she suffers from a personality disorder. Glad you guys got out when you did. Toxic people, toxic religion.

problemaddict 2

May i respectfully ask......have you had an adult conversation with your family about this? Why are they so willing to accomodate such bad behavior. It kind of spits at the whole point of "family reunion" no?

Tameria2001

problemaddict 2, None of the other relatives (including the host) had no idea that this was even brought up by this one relative. With her, I'm not quite sure what to even say to her, because at the moment she's upset with us for something that was completely out of our control. She'll get over it though, because she and her nephew (my husband) is very close. They have more of a brother/sister relationship, because they are so close in age, and they grew up together. I'm going to let him handle it, because he will know the right things to say to her, and he will when he's ready.

rebel8

I would say no, I am not going to socialize with people who treat me like a second-class citizen--let me know by ##/##/2016 if you change your mind, otherwise I will make other plans.

By "people", I am referring to the non-jw relatives who are insisting upon this. Say if you want to participate in a cult's shunning ritual, you will have to do it w/o me.

My saying is always, "You be normal and let them be the weirdos."

Oh, whoops. I see you already attended & refused to leave. Good for you!

zeb

I heard of a wedding...(!).. coming up and the couple knew that jw would be there and oppose this or that. The brides father a man of years and innate wisdom put it this way put the jw's table at a far end of the reception place and they could do what they like. I never heard what happened but it sounds ,..sound.

Toes up has i t in one.

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