It's not a bad idea min. At least with this they'll provide you with a little leway.
Now That We've Stopped Meetings, What Should We Expect???
by minimus 47 Replies latest jw friends
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simplesally
Do not admit to having doubts.
Do not admit to reading CofC.
Do what unique1 said to do............ just tell them you don't want a shepherding visit right now, you appreciate their
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crownboy
Well, I don't have elders visting my house, but I do live with my JW parents and my mom likes to question me whenever I miss meetings (which are usually all but 1 or 2 a month). Occasionally she'll ask me whether I still believe the JW's are "the truth" or not and I'll reply "Of couse I believe the truth" (notice the ambigious wording ). This usually placates her, then she'll tell me I should try to make more meetings (she doesn't even bother asking me to go in field service anymore, so that's a good sign, I guess ), to which I'll respond "sure, I'll try" (I never said how hard I'd try ), and then the converstion moves on to something more pleasant.
I guess this method works easier with mothers than elders, but I think most of the other posts gave sound advice as well.
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Adam
I used the old "bandade" philosophy when I left. No fading, no warning, nothing. I simply told my step mother (I was in high school at the time) that I wasn't going to the meeting with her that night, or ever. The only communication I recieved after that was an invitation to lunch with a couple elders which I accepted. They asked me questions and I gave them straight answers. When they saw that they were not going to be able to "bring me back into the flock" they asked me politely not to corrupt any of the other youths in the congrigation and lunch was over. Then a couple days later a pioneer came a-calling and asked if she could at least try to help me. I politely said that I didn't want and wouldn't accept any help. She left and that was the end of that. I think that if you tell 'em "well, not tonight" you're just inviting more visits and conversations that you don't want. Cut it off quick and clean.
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shotgun
Hey cyberguy they called you
called me a "borderline apostate!"
I'd like to immigrate to your country...how do I get a greencard so that I can freely cross the border.
simplesally said
Do not admit to having doubts.
Thats up to you I quess..I do know expressing doubts is supposedly ok...but it does also give away more info then they need to know most times.
Actually from looking at your posts you should be giving the advice on this......it does help to pick the forum brain for ideas too.
Were with you Min
Shotgun
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Adam
Just tell 'em:
"Hey, you know what? You make me want to vomit F**k off okay? Get the h*ll out of here and don't come back."
All you JW worries will be over permenantly.
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minimus
I agree that I shouldn't give them hope by constantly using delaying tactics. I plan on being specific as to my lack of interest in a shepherding call and any sort of meeting.
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blondie
I plan on being specific as to my lack of interest in a shepherding call and any sort of meeting.
A good idea but just be brief and undetailed, min. Hi, mrs min.
Blondie
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Maverick
Be vague in person and act like the Mob is after you...that there is some secret thing happening that you just can't talk about? On the phone tell them right off that you do not give them permission to record or have a third party listening on your conversations. And ask them if they are doing so. Imply that this came from your lawyer. Confuse them. Act like spies are everywhere and you have been told to trust no one! Tell them to put a little distance between them and you...for their own sake! Ask them to trust you and be patient with you and in time all will be clear, and wink at them! They have no training in this and will not know what to do. If they press you, get upset...like a hitman is going to find you if they don't listen. Talk in circles...you were an Elder...this should be easy! Drama my man...lots and lots of drama! Have fun with this! Maverick
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minimus
I just got a call from my elder friend to see if we want to go to a concert. He and his wife will be coming by my work for ticket money. Wonder if he'll be surprised by my not shaving since sat.