Ever get the feeling your just not "normal"?

by logansrun 58 Replies latest jw friends

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  Ravyn

  awww Bradley would you feel better if you could bite me?

  I luvya hun! I think by saying 'formal' you mean 'structured'? maybe you just are not used to freedom and the emptiness it can mean at first, you would not be the first JW or XJW to feel lost without the structure you were 'inculcated with since infancy'!

  What is normal? I think that is another illusion. Everyone, regardless of what whacked out religion they were raised in feels like they are not like everyone else and left out sometimes. You just need to find a group of people who have more in common with you that's all...not just the classes you are taking but like a hobby group where you can share your passions. You have not really been out of the Dubs that long---you need to replace your old support network with a real one. You need a little holiday. Can you do something fun this week end? something that might involve other people? different people even?

  It sounds to me like growing pains in the whole getting-a-life process. It happens to me less often now, but still every couple of months.

  if you really want to feel normal---you can always come hang with me! Heck(<for Craig) I make Michael Jackson seem normal!

  Ravyn
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  Robdar

  Bradley, I hate to be the one to tell you but, you are not normal. But, then, why would you want to be?

  I find you to be brilliant. Guess what? Brilliant people are not normal. Don't let the others who are not as gifted make you feel guilty.

  Robyn
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  Panda

  Bradley and Tink, You are at an age of BECOMING, a time when great writers and artists began their most creative works ... a sort of learning madness and imagination. All of that indestructible adolecent stuff is behind you. Now mortality has a new meaning, you are deep thinkers in a world of mediocre accepted shallowness. When you have already confronted the religion you were brought up into you are necessarily beyond your peers. Changes in belief also mean changes in your known power structures. You no longer have a specific final authority. You must think and analyse for your self. How wonderful that you feel alone, few people are ever where you're at their whole lives. Rejoice in your desparate philosophical alone-ness. You are thankfully human beings worth knowing!
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  Ravyn

  excellent post Panda! yes exactly.

  another thing, which I am sure has been expressed already, but here goes anyway---

  why on earth would you try so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out?

  Ravyn
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  teejay

  Sometimes. But I'm waaay better now than I used to be. Now, I only think that a couple of times a day.
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  moonwillow

  Sure all the time no matter where I am or what I'm doing. I have NEVER fit in. I've always been a loner. Yes it eats at you from time to time when you open your eyes and loook around at the world and you wonder why can't I have friends and fit in. I figure I'm just to old now and everyone has their little group of friends.
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  LittleToe

  Bradley:

  This is my emotional, lean on me thread, not my logic chopping "I'm going to whip your brain's ass" thread" teehee

  Huh? What do you know about logic?
  Enough of the ego massage, already - ya want me to come over there and bitch-slap ya, cousin?
  If you didn't have sh*t for brains, you'd be half-way sensible!!!

  Everone suffers from low-esteem, form time to time, so get your sorry @ss in gear, or I'll put it in a sling for ya!!! And if that aint enough - "come back, and I shall taunt you another time..."

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  "He's normal...
  ...Next!!!"
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  Phantom Stranger

  Dude, either the date did not go well, or this is not the thing to be dwelling on immediately prior to it.

  So... have you been on the date?

  I think that every human feels this at some point... we had more reason than most, but the sensation is a human one, not unique to us.

  You are normal, dude - you're just not average.
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  Adam

  are ther really more women? hm, yet all of the people in positions of power are men....huh

  I was always told there were more women. Of course the men are in power, the religion is based (at least loosely) on the bible, a sexist book to say the least.

  what does that have to do with feeling like a misfit

  Um, ur, nothing really. Logansrun and others were talking about how the mind works and stuff and it just reminded me of my postulation. Kinda went of track I guess.
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  logansrun

  Thank you all

  Robdar, Panda, Maverick, Ravyyn, exjw12.....you guys rock. Feel free to come to Chicago and we'll hang out

  Little Toe.....maybe there is a God. ((((((((((((((((God)))))))))))))))

  PhantomStranger.....actually, the "date" didn't occur....there's a story to that that is too confusing to tell. All I will say is this: I'm not depressed over it, nor is a date w/her never going to happen. It was a *weird* night is all I'll say. Yes, this did get me thinking on this subject, although I do feel this way often. Perhaps the fact that I am wise beyond my years....(lol).....coupled with the fact that I'm in a college where most everyone is at least six years younger than me has something to do with my social/mental/emotional isolation.

  I just don't want to end up like Nietzsche.

  Bradley