by logansrun 58 Replies latest jw friends
"I'm comfortable with my close friends (which stand at about two people right now)"
This better include me! LOL! Just listen to the advice I gave you and hopefully things will go smoothly. Give me a ring k? You aren't as socially stunted as you think. I do, however, understand how you feel. Feeling almost outside yourself is very normal for me. Perhaps we are the normal ones and the people who feel comfortable in all social situations are the abberations.
Love ya!
~Aztec
These are lyrics by a band called King missile to a song that shows how many of us x-nerds felt/feel.
"wuss"
I was a teenage wuss. In junior high school, I had oily, stringy hair and lots of pimples. I wore really wussy clothes. Most of the other kids called me a faggo. Even some of the other wusses called me a faggot. There were maybe five kids in the whole school who were wussier than I was. I was really wussed out.
I was afraid of girls, and guys scared the shit out of me. They used to say to me, "What are you, fucking queer?" They wanted me to fight, to prove I wasn't a faggot. But I didn't fight, I ran away. I was a wuss.
I was never into any sports at all. I never took showers after gym calss. I wore my gym clothes under my regular clothes so I wouldn't have to change in front of everybody else. I was afraid to realize my full potential in school because, to the other kids, the smarter you were, the wussier you were and the wussier you were, the more they beat you up.
I was a hopeless wuss. Wuss, wuss, wuss. I was into science fiction and math and chess.
It was not fun being a wuss, and even now, now that I like to think I'm not nearly as much of a wuss as I once was, I still feel kind of wussy from time to time: residual wussiness--the kind of thing you can never really leave behind. That's the way it goes.
Awww Bradley,Bradley,Bradley.........doncha know:
Normal is just a setting on the dryer!
Cheer up your young and plyable, you've got lots of time to make changes before the real wrinkles set in and become permanent. Growth is a process, life is ever changing we are all works in progress.
After all if your not normal and I'm not normal who the hell is?
Kate
(still morphing)
I also feel this way. I've wondered if it's some kind of disorder, like social phobia or Asperger's syndrome . . . I don't know if it's from having spent much of my childhood alone being homeschooled, or from having been raised a dub, or from something innate in my personality, but I also feel like I inhabit my own little isolated universe. Even keeping one or two close friends is very difficult for me. This inability to maintain friendships or hold normal non-anxiety-inducing conversations has bothered me for a long time, and I wonder if I'll have to live the rest of my life like this . . . at least solitude has gotten familiar to me by now, but what's most worrying to me now is whether or not I'll be able to hold down a job and support myself.
Bradley-
"I'm comfortable with my close friends (which stand at about two people right now)"This better include me! LOL! Just listen to the advice I gave you and hopefully things will go smoothly. Give me a ring k? You aren't as socially stunted as you think. I do, however, understand how you feel. Feeling almost outside yourself is very normal for me. Perhaps we are the normal ones and the people who feel comfortable in all social situations are the abberations.
Love ya!
Ditto this!! I got your message. . I called. . no answer. . call Bridget. . .
Bradley, this is an important book in my library. It freed me from feeling "not normal" for not wanting to do some of the things "everyone" else seems to enjoy. Although a lot of it didn't apply to me personally, it resonated a lot. Respect yourself! You are unique and important! -- Pat
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I don't "get" the feeling.... I live with the feeling. Don't think, that just because you are a little anti-social at times, that you are a "nerd"... maybe this will make you feel better:
*I am a "night person". At any given early morning hour you are very likely to find me perched in a tree top, playing the flute, fifty feet from the ground. I AM bat-man.
*only in the last five years, have I had very much human contact beyond my wife. I DO wear shoes now, but find them uncomfortable.
*my wife is British. When her English friends come to visit..... the first thing they usually say when they see me is... "what on earth is he doing?"... (for years I thought of this as their ignorance...now I understand.... they REALLY want to know.)
*Do you know why people go to movies?, out to dinner?, on vacation,? or ... Have conversations with each other????
**** Well I DON'T know why. I don't get it.*****
I have said this on here before.... when my wife wakes up in the middle of the night, and finds that I am not in bed.... she walks out into the woods, looks up, and whispers... "hey... are you up there?" ..
,,,,,,,,, and I usually am.
Normal? ummm .......... nope.
But I have learned to fake it monkey see, monkey do.
--------puttytat
Normal? - I only cared about things like that back when I was in my teens or early Twenties... (and KNEW I wasn't, all the same..)
Now that I am thirty, I embrace what bit of 'eccentricity' I have about me... I don't care or want to be 'normal' if i can help it.
Isn't there a town/community in Illinois called: Normal?
Hehee...just pulling yer leg Brad.
I think you need to hang out in Detroit, that'll normalize you.
Time to give the windy city a break and head to SE Michigan.
We did it, and man oh man....we feel...um, well not necessarily normal, but better .
Hope you feel better this weekend.
I'm in college now and usually am the person in class that is the most vocal -- asks the most questions, takes the lead in group projects, stays behind to ask more questions.
Thats me down to a tee! I feel like the 5 year old who keeps asking "Why? Why Why?"
In the long run its a good thing since we asked so many questions we become totally informed!
As for being normal, I aint. But thats ok with me.
Brummie
